So this may sound silly. I (19F) posted about how my girlfriend (18F) doesn't see a future with me and instead is planning to marry a guy. She also may have biological children in the future and talks about it sometimes. Now, part of it is because her family will apparently hate her if she ever marries/has a long-term relationship with a woman, but the other half, I'm not too sure. Yesterday when we saw each other and we were hanging out with our aroace friend (almost 21NB), my girlfriend says she's had crushes on women and men, so she considers herself bisexual, but she also talks about her crushes on women in the past and stuff and says "I don't know if I actually saw them as more than a friend".
I probably shouldn't feel insecure, but given everything she's talked about, I feel like she might see me as just a friend and just THOUGHT she liked me but she continues to date me, so I don't know. Liking men and all, she hardly talks about attractive women either as she doesn't know if she has crushes on them and she usually talks about attractive men and stuff.
She "may or may not" have biological children?!?!? Shouldnt she know? Does she just wont tell you? This sounds like a red flag to me. I understand if she isnt quite sure about her sexuality with social pressure going on and stuff. But having (multiple?) children and only being vaguily open about it seems off.
She's eighteen. I don't know how anyone can have their entire life mapped out at that age!
This. Both of you have plenty of time to make other experiences and change your mind about many things. Don't stress, enjoy the moment and change something if the moment isn't enjoyable.
Source : am old.
As a fellow old, I agree completely.
I missundertood the Text. Apperently i have terrible reading comprehension.
No like in the future, she may or may not plan to have biological children
Oh sorry. Apperently i cant read.