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I had a friend break up with me. We got really close pretty quickly (by my frigid standards for sure), and spent a ton of time together. We shared hobbies and did a load of work. Aside from one or two little quirks, the relationship was fantastic.
And then idk. It just got super fucking toxic. I'm sure I'm at fault somewhere in there, but for the majority it just felt like my friend was going off the deep end and there was nothing I was allowed to say during any conversation that wouldn't end up in paragraphs of a text later. I spent almost an entire year of wondering what I was doing wrong, of what I could do to help... just anything.
And then I was told Christmas eve that they couldn't handle it any more and they ghosted.
We ended up having a conversation a few months later but I was basically told I had no emotional value to them anymore. Talk about a punch to the gut.
So yeah. Fucking painful as hell. And I still don't understand what happened, and I assume I never will. My now partner has been friends with this ex friend since childhood, so I'm concerned about future get togethers. But what can you do
Friend breakups can be so painful! I'm sorry you went through that, especially her harsh words for you later.