My aunt and her husband live with me and my son. I pay the mortgage by myself
my son just drinks. no job, no education, no progress of any kind towards his goals. he's dealing with a lot of pain right now because of some abuse that happened. it's a mountain, he's powerless. i'm afraid he's going to drink himself to death. i'm angry because i'm constantly afraid/in pain because of him and he refuses to do anything about it
my aunt is autistic but doesn't realize it. she's always struggled with interpersonal relationships. she was abused by her dad at a young age and it turned her into a monster. nothing is ever her fault. if she hurts you, it's your fault for being there. it's your fault for being in the way. it's your fault for having thin skin.
my aunt's husband is 300 pounds and won't stop eating. he does a lot of work around the house - construction, carpentry, landscaping but he's not going to live long.
i'm just hurt and angry all the time. i'm alone and i'm stuck here. i don't know what to do.
do any of you guys struggle with this?
You’re not alone.
From my personal experiences, helplessness is a very debilitating feeling. I have my own situation that I am currently struggling with that is leaving me feeling similarly to you: I am stuck and hurting and there is not a goddamn thing I can do about it other than survive and pray* that either some miracle* will happen and my problems will somehow resolve themselves, or I simply cease to exist**.
I digress. This is not about me. My apologies.
I just want to reiterate: you are not alone.
* pray, miracle: I am not a religious man, so take that with a grain of salt
** cease to exist: look up passive suicidal ideation
hey well thank you. you're not alone either. it feels better knowing someone out there gets it. i'll say an atheist prayer for you. be good. thanks again