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Cumulative effects of ADHD burnout in middle age. (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I've always made up a person to fit in. Masking has taken a toll and I hate the person I've pretended to be. That person is boring, polished, and an over achiever. Since.I was punished severely on a daily basis at 4 years old and afterwards, my true self never was known to me. Only my self who could survive.

Where do we find our unmasked real self after reaching "the big one" burnout? When your braim stops working, you're no longer functional, and the person you made can no longer be sustained, what do you do?

I'm in my 40s and it's rough.

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[–] OberonSwanson@sh.itjust.works 25 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I wrote paragraphs of my experience and realized the best advice I can give after going through it myself is, stop being afraid of being yourself and most importantly speak to a medical professional for help on ADHD burnout.

As far as the real you, for me I found he wasn’t mad, he was sad. And was tired of being treated like a monster for opening my eyes to the burnout I felt starting at 20. He simply was trying to protect me and I used him like an old dirty mattress at a porn shoot. Forgive yourself and try making recompense and start working together for balance, meaning stand up for yourself more.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 18 hours ago

That last sentence resonates with me. I need to figure out why.