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I mean yeah by the time you've got 36k (or more) for mortgage, 35k for daycare, if 200k pre tax and married 30k to the fed, 20k groceries now probably, 10k for car payments (presuming 2), then state and property taxes, insurance, maintenance, clothes, diapers maybe, benefits, gas (probably idk we went electric), yeah I could see how that money goes fast.
It's definitely first world problems because it beats renting and 3 jobs and grandma watches the kids, but to do all the things you're "supposed to do" by 1950s standards you probably need something north of 250k/yr.
Yeah I’m lucky that my kids are full grown though they both still live with me because the job market is ass and my oldest is low functioning, and my wife is disabled, so still taking care of all 4 of us off my paycheck and my wife’s disability, I’m going electric next year probably(if my work bonus comes through) though I’ll still have to buy my youngest’s gas for his trips to college etc. really hoping things make a change for the better, else I’ll probably never retire, and I’ll still be housing my kids until they inherit the place.