Like, if you dislike this person that much, tell them you don't want to be their friend any more, instead of suffering inside at how much you hate interacting with them, and leading them on.

[–] nelly_man@lemmy.world 19 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I think the "Me" was saying that they've done literally nothing new or interesting and has nothing to answer the question with. The distress is from thinking about how little they are doing and feeling pressure to admit that to their friend, transforming a light conversation to a heavy one.

[–] this_1_is_mine@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago

That our I've been up to nothing I'm willing to talk about or admit.......

[–] harmonea@kbin.social 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

weirdly antisocial

Completely forgets (or ignores) the fact that some people just don't like their lives and avoiding thinking about it is what helps them get through the day. And that others legitimately have nothing new going on that they can discuss with those outside their inner circles. Like, I'm not going to tell someone I haven't seen in a couple years all about the adult novel I'm looking forward to releasing in December, or that time I moved and nothing about it went well to the point it was mildly traumatic, so yeah, they're going to get a "meh, not much. keeping busy. work and stuff. you?" at the most generous.

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

Look small talk is all well and good but don't keep pressing for info on what I've been up to because telling you all about how I've been spending most of my days as a puddle of self hatred on the couch doesn't make for good small talk

[–] ArthurParkerhouse@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

Just start with the topic you want to talk about. I would never message someone with small talk nonsense like "what's up" or "how's it going", etc, etc.