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Where I live now, things are okay. I have friends I see regularly, a stable job, and the prospect of owning a home in the next few years. At the same time, it is absolutely sprawling and street life is absolutely non-existent. Cultural life is oriented around bars and events and it is hard for things to happen spontaneously.

Meanwhile, I grew up in a different city which had a much more vibrant street life, and it was borderline possible to live without a car. I am at a real crossroads here now deciding if I should cut it and move home, or keep going with the life I am building here.

In general I struggle with depression, and I am worried I am fixating on changes in my extrinsic conditions as a deflection from my inner work/inner struggles.

Would like to here other's perspectives, and particularly the experience of people who have made a big move recently.

Staying Pros

• No major life disruption
• Continue with stable job
• Cost of Living lower
• Most friends live here

Staying Cons

• No street life
• Must drive to do anything---feel shut-in

Leaving Pros

• No car!
• Closer to family
• Street Life
• Bigger Gay scene
• Start Over lite

Leaving Cons

• Job hunt
• Major life disruption
• Might just be 'grass is greener'
• Leave friends
• Higher Cost of Living
• Continue my very patchy work history