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My roommates met at around those ages (apparently they met in college and didn't realize the age gap until it was too late) and honestly I thought it was messed up for awhile but now they're 23 and 30, making a life for themselves, supporting the other at their lowest and loving each other
I'd still agree with you generally, I have no plans to recreate their relationship, but it is possible for it to work out
I've seen similar situations as well. Context is always important, so weird absolutist takes like OP's miss that completely. Some situations would be fine, some would be inappropriate, but it's not all or nothing.
Yeah. If they were a couple I vaguely knew about over twitter, id probably disapprove, but some things you can only tell by knowing them
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I agree with your premise and wouldn't personally do it. However, I don't think these situations are quite as taboo or quasi-pedophlic as you categorize them to be. It is acceptable depending on the context of that relationship, or as you place it: power dynamics.
Power dynamics is dependent on: If they are both two consenting adults who are financially and emotionally independent & stable of each other. If those conditions check out, then there really isn't much of a problem, and it doesn't qualify as quasi-pedophlic sexual predatory as you seem to be painting these relationships or sexual encounters to be.
I mean, I've met couples - with children - who are 19/28 & 23/31 and started out which way. These relationships do happen.
I concede it is weird, at first glance, or when it's like a 30+ year old who exclusively dates teenagers/undergraduates. Yet people involved in those age ranges are still adults with their full agency behind their actions when they consent to sexual intercourse or romantic engagements; if both partners are financially, socially, and emotionally stable and independent of one another, then categorizing this as creepy, weird, or quasi-pedophilic , feels dehumanizing and infantilizing to reduce teenaged adults into helpless victims of those elder partners.
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I could believe a lot of such relationships aren't for the best, but I was dating 17 years my senior @ 18 and 31 years my senior @ 28. With that background, I'm fine with it personally.
I was dating 17 years my senior @ 18
yeah nothing sus about a 35 year old "dating" a high school student :ursus-hexagonia:
Half your age plus seven, a nineteen year old is an adult and they can make their own decisions. As long as the 26 year old isn't their boss or some other category with power over the 19 year old it's fine.
26 and 19 seems fine, once you become an adult it's more about being in the same phase of life. 30+ year olds dating legal age teenagers is where it starts to get creepy though.
As a former 19 y/o who was having sex with people that age and older- it entirely depends, but if you've done kink and consent education you probably have better boundary skills than most adult USians, and more experienced people showing you the ropes is nice.
But this is coming from a lesbian perspective and 19 y/o shouldn't be dating 26 y/o.
LiberalSocialist, you're a professional at making high engagement posts :07:
yeah i completely agree with this actually. at 26 your brain is done growing. at 19 you are still (developmentally speaking) dumb as fuck.
i think the real issue is when you start to tack on a few more years to the older partner but i do still think it's hella gross and weird to perv on people significantly younger than you are :shrug-outta-hecks:
it doesn't help that (at least in my experience) the older partner usually makes a habit of dating young, dicaprio-style
Uhh in your title you’re talking about fucking but in the comments everyone is talking about dating.
There are issues with age gaps in dating/long term relationships. But if it’s just sex then it’s just sex. A 19 year old can consent to sex, and it doesn’t really matter if your partner is older because you’re not gonna have a long term relationship with them and you’re only gonna interact with them for one day.
I think a 19 yo can consent to sex but its creepy, weird, and potentially harmful if the other person is 26 or older.
Yet, it's totally fine for 25-year-olds to date 20-year-olds.