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Note: This isn’t an exact all, but a collection of very similar repeating patterns. And while I might be looking around those that happen to mostly be white, cisgender gay men, they can exist in any queer demographic, as “Pick Me” mfs pretty much exist in every type of demographic.

Some time back, there was a post I saw about someone asking about Log Cabin Republicans, and as the post and comments went it made me wonder about this other kind I saw. Usually with Log Cabin Republicans, they try to hide anything queer-coded and will stay on the sideline quietly. For the kind I notice, while they also support the status quo and bootlick their oppressors, they’ll try to be all open and proud about it. In addition, they’ll double down on queer stereotypes and get OVERLY obnoxious with it, almost like denial.

With how they usually treat other queer minorities, it’s usually:

  • Mock and berate lesbians
  • Demonize and (ironically) slut-shame bi/pan men and women
  • Treat trans-women like they’re crossdressing gay men or drag queens (transfolk can be drag queens, but you get what I mean)
  • With transgender people in general, when they’re not mocking and berating them, they’re treated like some sort of pet on display
  • For racial minorities (and in general people that aren’t white, especially those that are queer), they really double down on the racism. Even with “positive” intentions, they view them like some sort of freak in a freak show.
  • A bit unrelated, but I also sometimes notice how with cisgender, straight (typically white) women, they either will go full woman-hating misogyny, or act like they’re the greatest thing in the world, no in-betweens. Just a pattern I noticed.

And while they aren’t as huge/common like in the 90s-00s, they still have a lot of influence. Speaking of influence, they seemed back then to really be more amongst circles of queer tv writers and creators. Ryan Murphy, to some extent Marc Cherry, creators of Sex and the City, etc., but usually they get away with their shitty behavior on the count of being “revolutionary” or just a “product of their time”.

The ultimate reason I ask about this is because of the distinction. While a Log Cabin Republican typically would stand on the sideline quietly, this kind of Pick-Me will try to act like they’re all open and proud, but like being proud of being underneath and wanting to be recognized as accepting their role in society as being lesser. What would this kind be called?

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