Yeah its a weird feeling. A mix of relief that things sort of make sense, bewilderment that I've gone decades wearing masks and stimming without realizing it, frustration, trepidation, other SAT words. Plus some suspicions about other kids I grew up with...
this post was submitted on 25 Jun 2025
99 points (96.3% liked)
Autism
8068 readers
844 users here now
A community for respectful discussion and memes related to autism acceptance. All neurotypes are welcome.
Community:
Values
- Acceptance
- Openness
- Understanding
- Equality
- Reciprocity
- Mutuality
- Love
Rules
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments e.g: racism, sexism, religious hatred, homophobia, gatekeeping, trolling.
- Posts must be related to autism, off-topic discussions happen in the matrix chat.
- Your posts must include a text body. It doesn't have to be long, it just needs to be descriptive.
- Do not request donations.
- Be respectful in discussions.
- Do not post misinformation.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- Do not promote Autism Speaks.
- General Lemmy World rules.
Encouraged
- Open acceptance of all autism levels as a respectable neurotype.
- Funny memes.
- Respectful venting.
- Describe posts of pictures/memes using text in the body for our visually impaired users.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions regarding autism.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our community's values.
- Expressing a difference of opinion without directly insulting another user.
- Please report questionable posts and let the mods deal with it. Chat Room
- We have a chat room! Want to engage in dialogue? Come join us at the community's Matrix Chat.
.
Helpful Resources
- Are you seeking education, support groups, and more? Take a look at our list of helpful resources.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
Yeah, both my kids are different levels of autistic but it wasn't until my wife pointed out that I was too, it all suddenly clicked into place.
For reference, I would've been about 47 when this happened, a couple of years ago.
Lol same boat. It clicked a couple years ago. My wife thought I should get diagnosed for a while, but why?
I'll still wear my headphones when I need to, ask for space when I need to, and masking up whenever I leave the house (and honestly around my kids. They're young and my son often asks why I'm mad if I'm not purposefully projecting my emotions).
I don't know if I'm autistic, but having cptsd and realizing that how I perceive the world is clinically incorrect was a debilitating moment for me. I assume some that get an autism diagnosis feels the same.
From what I've been told over the years by various different head people, the overlap between the outward symptoms of cptsd and autism is somewhat large.
The underlying causes are usually very different, but the expression has enough overlap that they always check for cptsd markers and questions.
In my anecdotal experience, of course.
It's also entirely possible to have both, which makes it even more complex.
This is true from what I've read. Autistic people tend to suffer long term traumas due to being treated a certain way due to their autism THEN learning to mask those less accepted behaviors in order to fit in. Forcing a square peg into a round hole is soul crushing.
Forcing a square peg into a round hole is soul crushing.
In that same vein, being a round peg in a square hole, nominally "fitting," but being constantly hounded to fill in all of the corners all at once all of the time is exhausting.
They can, and do, but that's not exactly what i was getting at.
I was saying that a (hypothetical) person, completely free of autistic traits can acquire traits very similar to how autism is expressed purely through CPTSD experience.
I fully agree that you can get ASD + CPTSD for the extra special double dose of the fun times, but it's possible to have one without the other.
Watching my friends' kid and my nephew grow up... yeah, a lot of light bulbs went on.
It took me a while. I watched a friend raise an autistic kid for years and went none the wiser.
Like a dingus.
Then I learned more... and remembered more...
Eh, "dingus" is just being hard on yourself. None of us are pros, and most of us are left to connect dots on our own while struggling daily with a world designed for NTs. Self discovery is a journey... though it would've been really nice to have had someone point out important landmarks on the way.
Thanks 💜
i dont get it
totally thought I would hate elden ring. thought I would play a bit. get annoyed at dying all the time and stop playing. played to the end of both the main game and the dlc. have not started a new playththrough at level 2 or whatever.
Man I've tried these games for years and it just finally clicked. Same as you, im about 1/3 through Erdtree but Nightreign is... addictive. I haven't started NG+ yet either
well admitadely I relied heavily on searches of elden rings cheese
I only attempted to cheese Commander Niall but I wasn't spec'd for Dex yet so I gave up and did it normally... eventually
I totally used Ashes to learn the fights tho. And now Mimic is so good I can let him crutch lol