Off My Chest
RULES:
I am looking for mods!
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If expectations were set ahead of time, this sounds like a lot of fun.
Is the sex good at least? That’s the only reason I can see you staying with her.
This is a red flag. Don't turn fiance to spouse until you really think about this or get her to corrupt it. Never going to dinner will make any future dates exceedingly difficult.
But honestly, if she has this red flag, there are likely a bunch of others you aren't seeing. The level of inconsideration she has to have to let her treat other people this way is exceedingly high. Not just how she's treating the wait staff, but the imposition placed on the cooks, as well as how the experience is affecting you. She's at best extremely thoughtless and inconsiderate.
Edit:or don't, divorce is available later if things bother you bad enough
Run my friend... run fast and do not stop until you're out of her reach!
btw: In restaurants à la carte is the practice of ordering individual dishes from a menu in a restaurant, as opposed to table d'hôte, where a set menu is offered. It is an early 19th century loanword from french meaning "according to the menu". Your fiancee acts like she's the queen.
RUN!
I do this - order a la carte and hold stuff. I try to be very nice about it. I don't want a 3 taco plate with rice and beans for $20, only to throw most of it away. I want a la carte one taco and rice. Everytime I get a salad without dressing, a burger without sauce, anything without cheese, etc., it gets questioned. Please stop trying to give me other dressings, different sauces, and cheese on everything. I get menu anxiety and usually check it before we go so I can make a plan, especially if we're dining with people I don't know well. Know that's it's frustrating for her too; extra frustrating if you're calling attention to it.
I might fundamentally disagree with you what a restaurant is. For me it's a place where hard working people get to share their cuisine with you. Most I'll ask at a restaurant is one alteration to one dish.
When I read the OP and your post, a restaurant seems like the place for you to get the perfect meal.
As Beau Miles puts it: "I plan on regretting what I'm eating at least once this week"
The restaurants I visit usually sell food, not cuisine. Ordering 3x the food I want seems wasteful and expensive. I don't think that skipping cheese (and associated diarrhea) makes it the perfect meal.
Different cultures! Dietary restrictions aren't optional though
How is this a “good” off my chest?
Edit: Thanks for the downvotes you dumb fucks, way to explain your rationale and simply dismiss people. Real “good,” uplifting community here.
I'll explain it:
Someone is asking a question and your being hostile to them - discouraging others to ask questions. So people are sending you a signal that your hostility isn't appreciated
Yeah I’m just bailing on this community. Droning on about your psycho partner doesn’t feel “good” to me.
It's a topic that often comes up when people vent. People feel better after they talk about their problems. Hence it feels good to get it off their chest.