In my decades of relationships and trauma from them. Honestly the best way If capable of course, to find someone is to not look for a relationship and just find good connection of people and eventually something will happen with someone. The whole dating industry is all about fast dating and forced dating for cash. So it's ok to not actively always be looking as it's often times imo best mentality for it.
this post was submitted on 18 Jul 2025
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If you lived a life that mainly had relationships throughout without any time for just you, then it is a good idea to just concentrate on yourself for a while. When I say a while, im talking minimum a year, especially if you are still young. You learn a lot about yourself this way and grow better from it. You may change your tastes and should have great times that you will never get again once you do eventually find someone. Just enjoy life.