I stopped using reddit entirely after leaving.
When you break up, you don't keep taking calls from your ex.
this post was submitted on 25 Sep 2025
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This isn't an ex relationship.
This is us opening a new bar because the owners of the old bars we used to hang out at got toxic, but most of the people we had fun with are still at that bar.
You have to talk about your new bar there if you ever want the new place to be more than three people on a table.
Yeah except the old bar stole from us. We built that bar, its unique ambiance, the nostalgia on the walls. The people who owned the bar didn't build it we did. When they couldn't pay server costs, we ponied up. We built the culture, the whole damn thing. And they stole it.
No, my metaphor is more apt. Reddit is a thief of something they could never create. Its an ex that we should all have moved on from.
Guys I'm still banging both of them ...and digg.
Bruh digg?
Bruh I had to get tested after digg. Might as well be going on Fark, or even worse, CL message boards.
No, my metaphor is more apt. Reddit is a thief of something they could never create. Its an ex that we should all have moved on from.
100% this. And that's the reason why I left reddit a little over a year ago.
I did left a message explaining my reasoning and where to find me the day I left. Two persons contacted me after that. All the others I had interactions with? Well, they made their choice. Which is fine.
I do understand Blaze's view, it's generous and good willing (like he seems to be in all his endeavors) but, to use your metaphor, I don't wish to spend my time in a thief's house to tell his family/friends they should consider leaving them. They know who they are living with already. They know what's happening, they see it everyday. And they have already decided not to leave. Once again, if I'm disappointed by it, I'm fine with their choice. Maybe they will come when things start to get a lot worse over there, or maybe they won't.
I hadn't had fun with any of those people for like a decade.
yeah it did kind of go from having some legit legendary threads to just endless scroll slop punctuated by reddit trying to recapture the magic of r/place. if you asked me if anything cool happened actually on reddit after 2018,my mind just goes blank.
Wait maybe the inception of 195/196 comes to mind. or I guess the GME circus was a thing that happened. And one time a subbreddit I lurked in collectively became infatuated and got rejected by an entire other subbreddit. that was pretty funny actually.
but none of that was funny like cBat guy or Cup Fucker or Spez being made moderator of Jailbait or the Faces of r/Athiesm or Magic the Crackening
if you asked me if anything cool happened actually on reddit after 2018,my mind just goes blank.
wsb kept the magic going. when the guy placed his bets purely on where the dog in his yard shit. the 'guh' moment. the 'oh my gourd' incident. that time someone "bought" several swimming pools worth of oil when its price went negative and then had to "take possession" of said oil.
at least a bit longer. it was really the only sub still committed to "fun" from the before times. of course it blew up and enshittified too. the gourd one though. absolute classic madlad action.
the gourd one:
top comment:
Bruh, who the fuck puts their life savings in ornamental gourd futures? The fuck is wrong with you?
oooh, I never even heard of those and I am pretty terminally online. gotta look them up. thanks for linking the gourd👍
holy shit he tried to make his investment into instruments. this is amazing
https://www.reddit.com/r/gourds/comments/l0o9za/market_potential_for_gourd_instruments_in_great/
Presumably no-one there can answer yes because if they were, they wouldn't see the question.
I did, /r/RedditAlternatives is the only sub where I'm still active
Ergo you're not in that Venn diagram because you're still on reddit.
If you aren't, not sure what you doing here, promoting the Fediverse on other platforms is the objective of this community
I don't follow this community, the post appeared on my main feed. Anyway, do you want answers? Or do you want to project a reddit attitude, when people challenge you in the slightest?
I don't know why you're deflecting, this wasn't about me. I just pointed out that if you're still using reddit you're not a pure citizen of the fediverse, which is what the redditor was asking for. And, as the other lemmymite pointed out: you're not going to find many pure fediverse bears with honey on reddit. This is about logic, not your or my dedication to the spread of federated social networks.
Me, youtube to some degree but peertube is growing.
I would love for PeerTube to actually have decent content. And I would love for an instance or two who are willing to let any user upload. Of course, that means they'll need content moderation to make sure they're not dealing with pornography or illegal content.
I feel like Peertube just needs one big creator to hear about it and start posting exclusive content there and suddenly it could really take off. A lot of big YouTubers could easily run their own instance which would surely be very appealing to them. Yes, there's no ad revenue, but I feel like the YouTuber game is all about Patreon type stuff now. Maybe I'm wrong.
My easy protip for being purely on fediverse: have no friends.
Okay, but jokes aside, maybe consider seriously paring down your friends circle. I have basically three friends that I stay in relatively frequent contact with. All of them use Signal and I can communicate with them however I want there. Hence I have zero need for Facebook or Instagram or Tiktok, or Snapchat, or Twitter. Let me tell you how nice it is to never be on any of that bullshit. Whenever I see someone else on it and really get a picture of what the experience is like, I want to blow my brains out within just a few minutes. I understand how it can feel real and authentic and valuable while you're in the middle of it, I used to be on Facebook too long ago. But this is no different from the people in Plato's cave feeling that the shadows on the wall are real. Once you've seen the real world in the real sunlight, you can't go back.
Really ask yourself if the 50 people that you "stay in touch with" on social media really constitutes staying in touch with anyone, or if you both just sort of mutually stalk each other from afar, transforming your relationship into a parasocial one completely unnecessarily. I'm sure some people really do have more than 20 people that they actually talk with frequently and like to stay in close touch with, but I bet that it's only a very small percentage of the people who think that's them. I will always sing the praises of aggressively pruning the friend group down to the best of the best. It's already hard enough to find time to hang out with two or three people frequently enough to really feel close to them, while also having your own interests and things like that. There is limited time to go around and limited time in life, and I would rather have really deep meaningful connections with a few people than shallow connections with a ton.
I deleted everything and will never go back. I end up there occasionally thanks to search results but otherwise I'm doing everything I can to avoid helping Spez get any richer.
I don't think we need to be this dogmatic. While I do most of my social media on Lemmy and Mastodon, I occasionally look at Insta and Bluesky (which I consider not fully federated yet). The two platforms I've left completely are reddit (API changes, terrible first-party app) and Twitter (son of South African emerald miners). I think federated services will win in the long run but we don't need to be pure users in the meantime. You go where you can still hold your nose.
Still can't kick Youtube, but soon
@Rentlar@lemmy.ca has. I haven't deleted my Reddit account but I swore to myself not to comment or post again after July 2023. Reddit's completely out of my routine replaced by Lemmy. I peek at it logged out sometimes, and log in maybe twice a year. Perhaps at the 3 year anniversary, it will be long enough I can break my personal vow, but only specifically to invite people over to the Fediverse in threads like these.
the "front page of the internet" seems to ignore a lot of extremely pertinent news about fascism and seem to only allow tid bits to rise to the top published by legacy media corporations that are known to be owned by the worlds wealthiest.
which is why i havent touched it since being banned for "inciting violence" after calling a literal nazi fascist, a nazi fascist.
I reduced by time on the mainstream apps except youtube by 95%
Youtube unfortunately has no viable alternative as of yet.