Demisexuality

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A community for those who identify as being demisexual!

This community was made out of a desire to bring together those on the fediverse who identify as demisexual, and build opportunities in connecting with others who are so that they feel validated and heard.

For those unaware, demisexuality is a sexuality on the Asexual spectrum, where one's sexual attraction to someone is established only after an emotional bond is formed.

Feel free to post memes, questions, resources, or anything relating to demisexuality here in this community!

All are welcome to participate so long as they follow the rules.

Rules:

PieFed.ca instance rules are to be followed at all times. Currently these rules are the same as those on Lemmy.ca.
All posts in the community must be in relation to demisexuality. Demiromantics are welcome, though this community is purely focused on demisexuality.
While likely already covered by rule 1, no aphobia. Any posts or comments shaming someones sexual or romantic attraction, or lack of, will be removed with the offenders banned.
While not required, it is generally good practice to provide Alt-text for image posts for those with visibility impairments.
This is currently an English-only community. This is simply for ease of moderation. As this community is hosted on a Canadian instance, posts in French are planned to be allowed in the future.
Please use the NSFW tag for more "adult" posts. Adult posts that are not tagged as NSFW will be removed. Posts with pornographic content are not allowed and will be removed regardless of tagging.

This list of rules is non-exhaustive, and will be built upon with time.

Resources:

AVEN "Gray Area" Forum Board

More resources will be added here as time goes on. There are communities on Reddit about demisexuality that are relatively easy to find, though they will not be directly linked here to help foster and build a federated alternative to the platform.

Community icon is licensed CC BY-SA 4.0 courtesy of Bruce the Deus of Wikimedia.

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How do you find play partners as a demi? (pawb.social)

submitted 3 months ago by playfulkittykat@pawb.social to c/demisexual@piefed.ca

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So like, let me preface this by saying I'm not entirely sure I even am demi. I do find people attractive, but not in the "man, I want to have sex with them" kind of way. That requires at least a friendship first. That's kinda besides the point of my question though!

Say you've decided that you want to find a new play partner. As a demi, how would you go about finding one? Dating apps seem to focus on either one-night stands or long term romance. Finding a friend-with-benefits seems a lot harder?

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[–] juspie@piefed.ca 2 points 3 days ago

I posted a very similar question on here recently. I would have to say, for me, the biggest hurdle in finding a play partner would be just finding a group/scene where folks are somewhat likely to be open to dating. But of course as a demisexual this still excludes dating apps and other such scenarios more geared towards immediately quenching a thirst.

I like the general suggestion that was given on my post: Find fun things to do as a way of meeting people. It eases the pressure, and one is more likely to be open to connecting when already having fun 😀

[–] Binzy_Boi@piefed.ca 2 points 3 months ago

Oh! Sorry, I didn't see this post initially, I just changed my settings to show NSFW posts with blurred thumbnails since something I posted disappeared after posting, and this only showed up for me after the fact.

There are dating apps specific to people on the asexual spectrum if that at all helps, acespace comes to mind, which may help you find people that are more on the same page as you. I wish I personally had more to offer beyond that, but play partners are a concept I'm not the most familiar with admittedly.