juspie

Back before 7cups went to shit I used to volunteer there as a listener, taking chats from peers about their mental health.

A few lines into the chat I'd often get asked if I'm human. "Barely", I'd think to myself, and then I'd reply with a simple "Yes".

Sometimes the person would go on to request that I chat with them as a friend, and not as a professional. Which, of course, I'd struggle to accommodate as much as possible while simultaneously trying to explain that that's just how I communicate 🫠

I posted a very similar question on here recently. I would have to say, for me, the biggest hurdle in finding a play partner would be just finding a group/scene where folks are somewhat likely to be open to dating. But of course as a demisexual this still excludes dating apps and other such scenarios more geared towards immediately quenching a thirst.

I like the general suggestion that was given on my post: Find fun things to do as a way of meeting people. It eases the pressure, and one is more likely to be open to connecting when already having fun 😀

Along similar lines, I must say how frustrating I find the fact that there are very few examples of narrative-driven, long-form pornography (like movies).

But I also realize that there is barely any market demand for something like that. eg. I don't often watch porn, and I almost never buy movies 🤷🏻

Good suggestions, thanks!

About your freezing up/dissociating: I too live with PTSD and sometimes I find my own patterns of behaviour to be very difficult to change.

But difficult just means difficult, not impossible, right? 💪🏽

Over time I think we can get better at coping with trauma ❤️‍🩹

Thank you so much for including nonbinary/gender nonconforming folks, even though this is a gender-focussed community ❤️‍🩹