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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/SilentOrbit9 on 2025-10-24 18:40:53+00:00.
This happened a while back but Im still feeling the consequences today. A few years ago I was in what I thought was a super solid relationship. We decided to move in together, share bills and basically start living like we were already married just without the paperwork.
At first it felt amazing. We split everything 50/50 (or so I thought) but slowly it turned into me paying for more and more stuff. Rent, car payments, random “emergencies.” I kept telling myself it didnt matter because we were building a future together. Yeah… that future lasted about a year before everything fell apart. When we broke up, it got messy. I didnt realize how tangled our finances were until I started trying to sort it all out. I had no clue what was mine anymore. I still kick myself for not protecting myself better not because I didn’t love her, but because I should’ve used my head too
Lesson learned: love and logic aren’t enemies. If you’re mixing finances or moving in with someone get everything in writing. Its not about trust, its about clarity
TL;DR: Thought love meant full trust. Ended up learning the hard way that you need paperwork not just promises