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What are some of the non-sexual pleasures men enjoy? For example, I like saunas and soaking baths with salts and scented candles.

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[–] ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net 34 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

That feeling between when you decide to lay down for a nap and actually falling asleep. When there's nothing on your mind, and you get your blankets just right, It's like coziness cranked to 11. One of my favorite sensations.

[–] InterestingSignal723@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I love that too, especially the part when you have nothing at the back of your head bothering you. It's been quite some time since I have that feeling. Unfortunately, in my chaotic world, there is always something going on in my head.

[–] ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hope you're able to experience that feeling again soon, OP. :)

[–] InterestingSignal723@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] itsnicodegallo@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Can I suggest the supplement L-Theanine? It's the chemical in tea that is associated with preventing people from getting the jitters from caffeine the way they do with coffee.

I have ADHD and anxiety, so I'm always thinking of something. It actually manages to mellow my brain out to be like, "Yeah, that's important...but is it productive to think about right now, this minute? Maybe not."

I even started taking it with my morning dose of Adderall because it tempers the intensity of the side effects.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

This is actually something of a weakness of mine. I can do that so easily that sometimes I just take a nap, despite all the pressures I'm under.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I like fixing/making stuff. Can be very rewarding and relaxing.

[–] InterestingSignal723@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What type of stuff do you make?

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Currently a timer based light switch for my mother, turning on/off the actual lights (so not just some lamps you plug in). Interface is a website, so easy to use for her. This will help her feel safer regarding burglars, since she can make the lights turn on and off seemingly randomly when she is gone. And not just any light but the actual lights of those rooms.

The pile of thingd I have to repair is far larger. But that is mostly too complicated to explain what I actually do to fix the stuff. But generally speaking replacing the actual chips in electronics that failed, instead of replacing everything.

[–] officermike@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

For home automation needs, Home Assistant may be of interest to you.

Sounds interesting and helpful

[–] paddirn@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Becoming obsessed with a project. Every once in awhile I’ll just get consumed with some kind of constructive/creative-ish project and it’s just such a nice feeling to have “a purpose”. Like, everything else in life sucks, but I’m working on something that feels important in the moment.

Taking a really nice shit is also pretty cool too.

[–] eatthecake@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

ITT: pointlessly gendered things that human enjoy.

[–] itsnicodegallo@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

None of these things are limited to men. None of these things are necessarily things all men would like either. Kind of a closed mind to even have to ask the question like that in the first place like there are things only men enjoy or things that women enjoy that men simply would not.

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[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Motorcycles.

As your attorney I advise you to buy one.

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[–] aeronmelon@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yup, cheese, for sure. I am trying to build some understanding of different kinds of cheeses and how to pair them with wine.

[–] snooggums@midwest.social 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] ExhaleSmile@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The cries of my enemies wives when they see what I've done to their husbands.

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

If you like the cries of your enemies when they see what you've done to their husbands, you'll LOVE the cries of your enemies when they see what you've done to their wives!

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[–] Taniwha420@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Sauna, yup. Love to go to the aquatic centre for a workout and a session in the sauna. A good shower is nice, more than a bath. If I can convince someone I have lice, I love having someone go through my hair. A top notch cappuccino or well brewed tea will take me there.

Hmm ... short list. I need to think about self care.

All good stuff

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[–] itsnicodegallo@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Literally anything a woman would enjoy, a man could enjoy. Take away our genders, and we're all just people.

My question is: do you think you like saunas, soaking bath salts, and scented candles because you're a woman (I'm making an assumption about that)? Do you think that if you turned into a man, would they suddenly become unpleasant to you?

[–] InterestingSignal723@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I am a man and am interested to know what other men like so that I can try those things. Of course we can also like what women like. I specified non sexual and for men because whenever I searched it the returned results were always of sexual nature.

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[–] 8ender@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Driving in my car on a country road listening to an audio book

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[–] lemmyng@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The opportunity to disconnect from responsibilities! Having a moment where you can just completely relax because you have nothing that you have to do, nowhere that you have to be, no one that you must take care of; feeling the tension just leave your body because you can finally relax.

[–] Weirdfish@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Have one of those nights tonight.

Glass of whiskey, some bad guitar, and then a shower and pass out.

Only possible interruption is if the cat wants on my lap.

Those are rare moments

[–] finkrat@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Problem solving

[–] kemsat@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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Hot chocolate/Tea on a cold night

[–] Iceblade02@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Teaching - the sharing of knowledge and understanding. It is pleasing in a special sort of way to help someone grasp a concept, a new way of thinking. It's fun to help others explore the world and broaden their horizons, if just a little bit.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

Feeling safe, warm, and loved cuddled up in your lovers arms.

[–] hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

Can only talk for myself, but sauna with a good friend and couple cold beers on a summer evening is about as good as it gets

[–] Kowowow@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure if it's going to be very common but I do enjoy just doing nothing like one step lower than just playing games all day

[–] JCreazy@midwest.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A manicure and a pedicure. Trust me bros, it's worth it.

[–] InterestingSignal723@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have never gotten them professionally, but I had a foot bath machine with bubbles and vibrations. That was very relaxing.

[–] m0darn@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

I had my first professional pedicure a week ago.

It felt good. I was in a massage chair too which was nice.

[–] pewgar_kbin@fedia.io 4 points 1 year ago

switching software or even phones. it's controllable but it just feels fun

[–] m0darn@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

Watching my kids be nice to each other.

[–] Zellith@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Back scratches.

[–] ns1@feddit.uk 3 points 1 year ago

Beer Also more beer

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Any time I can lie down on the ground in the sun, I feel great. Warm sun and fresh air. If it’s after I’ve just finished swimming in a body of natural water, that’s even better.

Imagine jumping into cold water, feeling the shock, swimming around for a bit, then feeling tired so you paddle over to a big slightly sloped red rock, and you lie there on your back. The rock is warm from the sun, and stays warm underneath you because it’s been absorbing heat all day.

[–] astrsk@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Throwin’ stuff

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