Anamnesis

Escapes are pretty bad cars. My ex had one with just over 100k miles, engine cracked and started leaking coolant into one of the cylinders. Totaled the car with no accident.

What do lemmings live in. ...holes? Warrens? Hives?

Come to Washington. But make sure you make it West of the Cascades!

I wonder if this is the app, or the age group? As a late 30s guy on Hinge, I don't have a ton of trouble finding at least a few people to have a decent chat with every week, and it's led to a decent number of dates and even a few long term relationships.

The part that's bothering people is the "traumatized people can't be responsible for other people's comfort." It sounds too much like "I'm sorry if my reaction made you uncomfortable, but I have trauma and so I'm not responsible."

I think there are two ways of reading the claim that a traumatized person can't be responsible for other peoples' comfort. The first is reasonable: nobody is really responsible for anyone else's comfort. We have to take care of ourselves at the end of the day, so mentally healthy people especially shouldn't rely on traumatized people to make them comfortable.

The second is unreasonable: traumatized people, more than anyone, have no obligation to do the basic things that make other people comfortable, in virtue of their trauma.

I think the post just makes it sound a little too much like the second interpretation, because otherwise why focus on traumatized people in the first place? I think that's what's getting under most peoples' skin.

I mean, the point of therapy is to work through your trauma in a way that allows you to avoid maladaptive behaviors, which might include being overly sensitive in situations where it isn't appropriate and doesn't help you. We can make some changes to accommodate the bad things that have happened to people, but having trauma doesn't give you license to go around the world inflicting your emotions on everyone around you. Your mental illness is not your fault, but it is your responsibility, and all that.

Muffins are cake. I don't eat cake except on special occasions. I think this is a pretty good rule.

Are we sure he's not just defending the hopelessly corrupt Clarence Thomas?

Didn't expect the deep state to be the national park rangers.🎶

Even cats will fuck you up if they really intend to.

This is my dog. It took so damned long, and so much careful training, to get her to accept that sometimes I have to go to work but that I always come back.