ArtemisimetrA

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[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

It rather seems to me that you're only responding to the generalized ideas I'm trying to present as they relate to your own specific experience, and using that as a way to discount or invalidate the concept entirely. I don't see the point in going to bat so hard for this. I'm not telling you how to raise the humans you've chosen to be responsible for, I'm just saying that's another kind of relationship. Relationship anarchy is very specifically not "free love", which clearly wasn't so free anyways. Love is free, sure, but these days so many people's time is money; taking the time to choose what relationships you participate in, and what that participation looks like, can't possibly be a bad idea, and that's the idea with RA.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 8 points 4 days ago

Ah yes, the old quarter-century crisis. We got another one here, Bob, send em the welcome package. (The welcome package is multi-vitamins and sore knees)

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I literally just can't wrap my AuDHD brain around professional formatting. I'll probably use AI to take the paper I wrote while ignoring archaic and pointless rules about formatting and force it into APA or whatever. Feels fine to me, but I'm but going to have it write the actual paper or anything.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 8 points 4 days ago

I don't get it, were you a plate this whole time?

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 11 points 4 days ago

Now that's an infographic

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 3 points 5 days ago

What in the idiocracy

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

Oversimplifying methinks. Great for jokes, maybe not so much for education.

To be clear, I laughed at your comment, then felt inspired to expand upon and offer more synthesis of ideas in RA. No need to condescend my offer of additional detail.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago

One... More... Square...

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Well I hope that you amend your views before bringing a tiny new human into existence. I'm not saying that laws should be outright disregarded. I had limited time to make my response, so I didn't go into much detail about RA's approaches to co-parenting. I don't intend to do so now.
Choosing to get law enforcement involved doesn't break these rules. If a relationship is inequitable and people are in danger, and getting the police involved seems like the only option from one or more perspectives in the relationship, then that's what should happen.
Another major factor within RA is the choice/ability to continue or discontinue relationships. And this element (like any other element of skillful RA) requires an ongoing commitment to communication. Checking in about the state of relationships. Choosing to deescalate a relationship for any number of reasons is a fully valid choice, whether due to time constraints, lack of commitment, over commitment, feeling unsafe, feeling codependent, literally anything; though, with the hope that people either won't oversell an issue or understate it. Literally you're "not feeling it" can be a valid reason to step back, but also that might be easier to work through than, say, "the way you handle conflict reminds me of ways my parent(s) used to invalidate my experiences of emotional distress before I was able to fully articulate my difficulty, and I can't continue to relate with you so closely until we have boundaries and agreements in place regarding how you handle conflict."
I'm guessing you don't live in the US based on your last statement, and I would hazard a guess that things are indeed pretty different elsewhere, at least in regard to socio-political climate. That doesn't necessarily invalidate RA as a system, but it likely (and probably greatly) changes the way one or more people may be supported or seen by the society they move through. The US is very patriarchal, but generally women are in less danger here than, for example, Yemen or Saudi Arabia.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago

Sometimes multiple times in a row.
Sometimes on the same post.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 9 points 1 week ago (16 children)

Even if the politicos unironically started referring to themselves as oligarchs, a significant population of US citizens would likely either take it as a joke and hand-wave it away, or take it as further proof that that's just what you do to get ahead.

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