BrightFadedDog

I absolutely agree with everyone who recommends an older machine and a good service centre. But I've gone against that advice for myself and have a newer computerised machine for myself, simply because it has a needle threader and my eyesight is not great these days - I was starting to struggle to thread the needle on the older machine.

Anything that's not the cheapest machine will generally be ok. Most of the fancy options that make machines expensive are not really necessary, as long as the machine can sew straight and zig-zag you have nearly everything covered.

I think just being more intentional about what you are engaging with is a really big thing, especially focusing on deeper engagement rather than the shallow skimming of repetitive content that most platforms encourage.

I've been disentangling myself from Google as much as I can recently and one of the things I've noticed is that their AI suggestions for everything were taking up more of my attention than I realised - every text message or email I replied to used to pop up with "suggestions" about what I should reply and I really like not having that any more.

The bit I find myself very conflicted about is Facebook. I hate their algorithms, I hate the constant stream of AI generated and adverstising rubbish, I hate their AI "questions" on every post. But there are a few niche groups on there that don't exist anywhere else, and that do allow me to have deeper discussions on specific topics and connect with local people. I'd love to get rid of Facebook entirely, but doing so would also mean I have to lose that deeper content that is valuable to me.

I'd mostly like to keep them to a few posts so the actual discussion posts won't get lost. At the moment the idea is people can post that sort of thing in the pinned introduction post, but I am thinking of something along the lines of themed picture posts in the future.

There are plenty of groups which have primarily photos, you are free to join those if that is what you are after. This group is for discussions, if that is not what you are after feel free not to join.

I did that when I moved to Lemmy last year. The more recent account I just deleted was mostly comments "inciting violence" and encouraging people to move to Lemmy, so they are welcome to keep those.

I'm working on getting rid of Google, but it is linked into so many things it's going to take a lot of time to do it completely.

I've moved away from Chrome as a browser and Google as a search engine. I'm starting to disconnect other accounts I've logged into using Google as well.

I'm setting up new email accounts - I'm using my own domain name so I can move in future instead of feeling so tied to one provider.

At some point I need to look at Google drive/photos - I think there are a couple of things that synchronize through there still. The find my phone service is tied into Google. All my apps are downloaded from the Play store, and there are a few things tied into Google Wallet.

I can get rid of the main bits, but I think it's going to take years to get rid of it all.

Someone else posted that they wanted to fire Bezos off in a rocket never to return. I replied that it would be more appropriate to float him down the Amazon. My comment (and only mine) was banned for "inciting violence".

I expect it varies depending on the store, but a place near me has things like remnants and ends of rolls, upholstery fabric sample books, offcuts of things like leather (the bits left around the edges after the pieces are cut out) and the ends of elastic and lace rolls that are too small for manufacturers to be bothered with but perfect for home use.

I have put together a video showing how I do my darning, the post is here if you are interested.

I've been thinking a lot about what makes for a good group since I moved to Lemmy. Small and engaged is what I came up with, and authentic is definitely part of that. A lot of people's normal response is to look for the biggest group for everything, but I believe once a group passes a certain size it loses the ability to have good constructive discussions - at best you get a core group participating and a lot of people who just watch, but more often you lose the space for anything exept superficial conversations as everything that is not new gets lost in the volume.

It's a pity Lemmy does not allow for subgroups, as that would be a good option for larger groups. The best options I have come up with so far are including weekly themed posts, and ongoing posts for specific topics linked from the sidebar so they can be kept visible. I think moderating a group well involves being part librarian, not just the rules enforcement most people focus on.

I agree completely with both those points.

It is less important that our hobbies are something that we are "not obliged to do" than that we are actively engaged in them.

Many people spend their free time in activities of passive consumption - watching TV, shopping and doing packaged, purchased "activities". The only active component is searching for the next thing to consume.

An actively engaging hobby is very different, it involves growth and learning. Many hobbies can be engaged in either passively or actively - think of the difference between a photographer who goes out every weekend to take photos and improve their technique, compared to one who spends hours researching and purchasing equipment but rarely "finds" the time to actually take photos.

The real difference between them is the mindset, and that can be applied to things you are obliged to do as well. My hobbies tend to be extensions of things that are necessary - cooking, gardening, sewing. All can be approached as necessary chores, but an approach of active engagement turns them into hobbies. Even scrolling the internet can be turned into a hobby - although I'm not sure if moderating a group and trying to learn enough javascript to automate things will make me a better person or lead to madness at this point!

I guess my argument is that it is not doing things outside of what we are obliged to that is important, it is doing more than we are obliged to do. It does not matter whether that "more" is different things, or things we need to do done in a different way.