Frenchy

Oui mais cette fois il va finir en prison non ? …non ?

I’ve not got a lot of advice to offer, because what you’re going through is hard and sometimes there’s no easy answer.

I will however tell you from one stranger to another that the shame is misplaced. You have nothing to be ashamed about, because you’re doing the best you can. Sure, some hypothetical you has a shiny clean house and looks like they have all of their shit together but that’s not a real person, and that standard is not useful to hold yourself against. Your mil may very well have a spotless house but you can bet your arse she has other shortcomings where you are absolutely killing it.

Shame like this is almost always a learned reaction from some past events, and almost always it’s utterly unhelpful. You’re getting stuck in a shame spiral treating yourself like shit and then feeling so terrible that you’re in no position to dig yourself out. Try not to hold yourself to impossible standards. Treat yourself like a good friend - do what you can, and then give yourself a break. And try and recognise the areas where you’re doing pretty great, even though the house is a mess. Internet hugs.

Ok, so this is an autistic thing too? I thought it was just my training from lab work seeping into real life.

Someone please tell me that shelving unit isn’t structural.

Pas de quoi, j’espère que ça te seras utile.

Nous avons faites 45m2 (plus une cave) avec 2 meubles à démonter, puis 200km de trajet. Tout compris c’était 1800. Nous avons choisi un devis un peu milieu de gamme (trans dems services) avec les bonnes notes et c’était nickel. Les gars était très pro, très organisé, ça s’est déroulé parfaitement sans stress. C’était aussi une grande première pour moi de payer les déménageurs, je ne regrette absolument pas. (Désolé pour les fautes d’orthographe, ça n’est pas ma première langue)

Je sais pas si c’est adapté à vos besoins, mais nous avons déménagé Paris - Normandie en utilisant le site web nextstories. Très contente avec la prestation.

His and hers and theirs, apparently.

A côté de chez moi il te donne juste un mini- reçu avec le code barre dessous.

This is an excellent suggestion. Transforms it from massive cringe to pretty self-deprecatingly funny.

Thank you !

Thanks !