That's not nation building, though. "Be only as others see you" is pretty toxic advice at any level.
Kichae
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Just downgrades the results a step, so it's Oops, All Hits rather than Oops, All Crits.
I wonder if the upcoming release of SF2e opens the door a little more? Instead of "this is different, let's try it" it can be framed more as "I'm excited about this new thing, want to indulge me?"
And then suddenly, Skittermanders everywhere!
Nope. Sites hosting toxic communities should be iced out entirely. This is a content mirroring network, and no one should expect others to host copies of their toxic waste.
Yeah. The rich go from funding it as a service, via their taxes, to making income off of it, via dividends. Everybody wins!
So long as you're only counting the rich.
I asked a Llama model on Hugging Face, and this is what it said...
No, they're advocating for sensible defaults. Just because you're an enthusiast doesn't you're the market. Being supported is great, but believing you deserve to be sppecially catered to at the expense of the maajority is real smug bullshit.
My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
This is the reason why. Your ex has managed to control the narrative and has manipulated the social atmosphere to ice you out. Emotional abusers are often very good at this. They mamipulate everyone around them.
And they are really good at choosing their abuse victims. They know who they can love bomb, who they can isolate, and who will keep their mouth shut.
I have been there. Watched people I thought were friends just evaporate, choosing their relationship with my ex over me. Realizing they were never my friends, they were "ours", and ij the end they stuck by her, the more openly social and boistrous one.
It's taken a long time, and many different therapists, but I've come to accept my experiences as abuse, as not my fault, and... sometimes... that I am worthy of love, friendship, and happiness.
I have found the books The Body Keeps the Score and Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (available as audio books), as well as videos on toxic shame and attachment by Heidi Prieb, very helpful.
I know the words feel hollow, because they feel so far the opposite of true, but you are not alone. Many others have been through what you've endured, and have made it out the other side. There are people out there who will, one day, be so very glad to have you in their lives.
Some day, when you're ready -- and much earlier than I did, I implore you -- you should join some activity groups. Take up a recreational sport, join a gaming group, take group acting lessons, join a choir... anything that is a) casual and b) a group activity. Bonus points if it's something you always enjoyed, buy your ex tried to excise from your life. This will help you rebuild your social network, and let you reconnect with yourself.
Physical activity and a healthy diet is also important here. It may be the last thing you want to do, but it actively helps fight all of your worst psychic injuries. Not only is it physiologically good for you, it's psychologicallly good for you. You know that it's good for you; your brain knows it. Doing healthy things means choosing to care about yourself. You need to actively choose yourself at every step of the way. It trains your mind to see yourself as worthy of care.
Oh, and ritually burn things that were hers, or that were shared and tied to your relationship. You don't need them. You don't need her. You're going to be better off without her.
Not without refineries at the other end of them, for sure. Otherwise, we're not even benefiting from the damage we're doing. And even then, it takes a long time to build a refinery.
Yes, because ultimately it is nothing more than a redistribution of wealth from the wealthy back to the poor and working class, and it's the people on the bottom of the income ladder that actually drive the economy -- especially the local economies -- instead of just hoarding wealth.
"Look, I told you yesterday, I don't care. Whatever I said the first time we had this discussion, today, on the 937th time, I no longer give a shit."
At the very least, being unable to regulate emotions when under stress. Often with the stress threshold and sources being meaningfully different from neurotypicals.
But I think a lot of people miss this distinction, both coming and going. If you can't or haven't identified your stressors, it can feel random. If you are always exposed to your stressors, it can feel perpetual.