Nefara

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[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Yes, he said he didn't like feeling like a kid next to me πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Found it really funny that in a green text meme post that was basically "-want to be a woman -don't have dysphoria" that when someone said they had the same sentiment as OP there was instantly someone in the comments saying they might be trans.... as opposed to, you know, just already being a woman πŸ˜‚

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Gratitude, even for little things. A purposeful and deliberate focus on things I'm happy to enjoy in my life and taking moments to really acknowledge them and soak in that feeling.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago

I'm proud of how I handled my anger over current events.

I got sick of just complaining on the internet and feeling powerless, so I volunteered for town government. It's an unelected position, unpaid, but it's in something I'm passionate about. It's tedious and slow, but we're making incremental changes to make things better. I have real influence now on my immediate area and it's helping me keep my sanity(?).

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 102 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (5 children)

It's pretty common to want to be a woman and not have gender dysphoria. I'd bet something like half of all humans experience this.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I think the easiest thing to do is just look and see if it has a stamp on it. Very often it'll just tell you. Look for "full grain leather" and be wary of "made with leather". Another thing you can do is to really acquaint yourself with what a full grain leather belt looks and feels like and then you'll have a feel for the weight, stiffness and finishing. You can also look for ones that look a bit worn, with slightly deformed holes, a little warping, scuffed edges or tooling etc. If it looks worn, it's already withstood the test of time, and real leather can be re-dyed and reshaped. Obviously don't buy something that looks like it's falling apart though, cracking and rips aren't worth the hassle if it's not something sentimental. You won't necessarily find a good leather belt every time you go to a thrift store, but it's definitely something to keep an eye out for and you never know.

You can also always buy a bigger belt, because full grain leather can be cut and the edge finished with hobbyist crafting tools.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

I had some unhealthy eating habits in the first year I had a kid, and I seem to be able to maintain the same size easily but getting smaller is hard. I actually don't mind what I see in the mirror, I think my shape is nice and I'm healthy enough to do all the things I enjoy, but what really bothers me is I can't fit into my favorite clothes 😭 I love clothes, I love playing dress up, and in the decade prior to having a baby I had found some amazing second hand finds that brought me joy and delight. I have a panoply of pretty things that helped define my personal style, but now only a small fraction of my wardrobe fits me. I can still wear some pieces, and I've found a couple new things for my current size, but I look in my closet with longing to wear my beautiful clothes again.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 25 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Hey I get it though, bike lanes are expensive new infrastructure. So pro-bike, anti bike lane just means all roads are now for bikes, cars not allowed. Ban cars and you don't need expensive new infrastructure! Sounds great!

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (3 children)

You can still find them for $5 in thrift shops, just need to be able to tell the difference between the good stuff and the crappy stuff.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Apparently black clothes, when worn loose with a big skirt like that, can create a chimney effect and increase airflow underneath

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I used to have a very low opinion of the capabilities of kids younger than 5, and genuinely had no idea what they were really like. I remember having similar thoughts about parents grieving babies, because for milennia we as a species had to deal with children dying all the time, to the point of not even naming them before certain ages. I have a toddler now and boy did I underestimate them. Did you know some speak in full sentences by two and a half? We taught our kid sign language when he was 8 months old so he could tell us what he needed, and by ten months he was telling us he loved trucks, had a surprisingly high tolerance for hot sauce and was a major cuddle bug who had a different favorite color every day (but mostly yellow and blue). He's three now and knows how to crack jokes, build block castles, can do forward and backward floor somersaults, and even can even do some basic rock climbing. I have parent friends with kids similar ages, one has their kid writing already, another has their kid riding a bicycle, all under 4 years old. They come out of the gate with very distinctive personalities, and every kid is different. I think if you actually knew a toddler well enough to get to know them, you'd realize just how quickly they become a fully realized person.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've been impressed with my set of bamboo blend underwear from Boody, specifically the underpants. I bought like 8 pairs over a decade ago, and when I bought another set a few years ago and mixed them into the old pairs it was hard to tell the difference. I machine wash them and air dry them and they've held up extremely well. They're so soft and comfortable I can't really feel them when they're on, which is remarkable because I have trouble filtering sensory things.

They've held up so well after hundreds of wears I feel good recommending them to others. They ARE very simple, but they come in a variety of fits and colors.

 

Still makes me laugh

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by Nefara@lemmy.world to c/icecream@lemmy.world
 

By far my most consistently asked for ice cream is peanut butter. Our friend circle is increasingly filled with radicalized peanut butter supremacists. It's also one of the easiest to make. I decided I'm willing to share my secrets ;)

You'll need:

Ice cream maker (obviously)
Batter bucket (big mixing bowl with measures on the side and a spout, I use an 8 cup glass one)
Silicone spatula

Ingredients:

1 cup smooth peanut butter. I've tried crunchy but the bits don't mix well. Skippy Naturals is my recommendation
3/4 cup sugar
1 cup light cream
2 tbsp vanilla extract
Whole milk

First, stir the peanut butter thoroughly to incorporate any oil that's settled to the top. Pour it into the batter bucket using the spatula until you've roughly reached the 1 cup line when leveled. Add the sugar, and mix. Add the cream in portions, stopping to mix it into the peanut butter as you go to avoid lumps. Add the vanilla extract, and then add whole milk until you reach the 4 cup line on your batter bucket. Stir until homogenous. Optional: pre-chill the mixture in the fridge for a faster freezing time. Pour it into your ice cream maker, and churn for 15 minutes if pre-chilled or about 25 minutes if not, until the ice cream is a soft serve consistency. Scoop it into your preferred containers and put into the freezer to firm up.

Serve with a drizzle of your favorite chocolate sauce. I suggest SMALL PORTIONS. It's extremely rich and you can always go back for more.

If you don't have a batter bucket, I can't recommend one enough. Scooping peanut butter out of and then cleaning the measuring cups is a giant pain. Being able to pour the mixture from a spout is a huge upgrade over a bowl. It's immensely helpful in ice cream making and if you plan on making it more than once in your life just get one already.

Enjoy ;)

 

One of my favorite home made flavors is MANGO! Don't try to tell me it should be a sorbet, I don't care.

Makes about 2qts

Ingredients:

1 cup light cream 2 cups mango puree or blended frozen mangos 3/4 cup white sugar 4 tbps mango or coconut rum (~12% alcohol) ~3/4 cup whole milk

In a blender, add about 2 1/2 cups of frozen mango chunks and the 1 cup cream and blend until smooth. Add some milk as needed for blending. You should end up with approximately 3 cups of a mango and cream mixture. Pour it into an 8 cup "batter bucket"*. Add the sugar and rum and stir until the sugar is dissolved and you no longer feel grains (can take a minute). Add the milk to get the mixture up to the 4 cup line of the batter bucket, approximately 3/4 cup. Stir, and once it's a homogeneous color pour into a 2qt ice cream maker to churn. It should be in a soft serve state within 15min if you used frozen mango, or 20-25min if you used a mango puree. Remove from ice cream maker when it's the consistency of soft serve frozen yogurt and scoop into containers of your choosing. Allow it to firm up in the freezer for a few hours.

*it's a giant measuring cup that also works as a mixing bowl and it's immensely useful for ice cream making and anything else where you need to end up with a finished product that has to be poured.

The alcohol helps keep the ice cream from freezing too hard since this recipe doesn't have as much fat. The mango rum I use is by Cruzan and personally I can't taste it in the ice cream, but serve to kids at your own discretion.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Nefara@lemmy.world to c/gaming@lemmy.ml
 

For those who missed the trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pygcgE3a_uY

Don't try to tell me Beyond Earth was a sequel, Stellaris is more of a sequel to SMAC than BE was.

 

Found myself starting to think about trying some new thing that sounded cool, and realized it might be fun to think about all of the random interests, crafts, hobbies and pursuits I've chased on tangents to my life. It's easy to feel like a bum or a failure for dropping hobbies and that could cause hesitation in starting something new, but on sheer volume I bet some of us have impressive lists. Requirement is that it never made you real dependable income and wasn't a career for you. Aside from that, sky is wide open. It can be something you tried for a few weeks, years, or still do. What's your trail of hobbies?

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