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Please, please, please, flag all foreign-owned media, especially foreign-owned "Canadian" media, which is part of the strategic-machine they're running..

( no, I don't mean as national-operations, I mean as operations intended to highjack the whole damn world, for sake of oligarchy's dictatorship, which now I know to be an actual strategic-operation, .. and I didn't need any more depression-inducing "medication", just now, thanks, world. Bah. Humbug, too. )

There's an incorrect-assumtion in there, I think..

IF one sees a graph of crimes committed,

say one depicts numbers-of-crimes as the Y-axis, & severity-of-crimes as the X-axis,

THEN one's going to see that the most crimes are minor, right?

there's going to be a powerlaw ruling the relationship between numbers-of-crimes & severity-of-crime: the greater the severity, the fewer-instances of it..

Now .. mix-in the problem that living-wage isn't a legal-right in any jurisdiction in North America..

AND mix-in the problem that white-collar-crime isn't prosecuted the way that blue-collar-crime is ( theft which causes the disemployment of multiple people will not likely result in prison-time, but multiple retail-thefts will be more likely to do so )

What the economic-system itself becomes, then, is a "conveyer belt producing criminals", in some sense..

& the single greatest indicator of whether a person's going to be charged with crime is whether they've already been charged with a crime..

Remember the now-discontinued "scared straight" program, or whatever it was called?

Apparently it backfired: when you aquaint youth with jail, you normalize it, so you've moved the frame-of-reference, & now criminality is much more normal than it had-been, in their minds, so .. they're more likely to be going 'round criminaling on ye, see?

I think that the real tough-cases are the ones you're seeing, the ones who don't rehabilitate, & the actual most-cases isn't them.

( I also wish there was some systematic get-lives-out-from-criminality's-churn mechanism like "Doing Time Doing Vipassana" the documentary showed really works, for some people )

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Bright lines, & hard walls.

Sometimes hard/actual consequences are the ONLY correction which produces any result.

Female-cultures tend to assume that social-pressure's entirely-sufficient ( Scandinavian cultures are this ).

There's a Scandinavian country where a serial-murderer keeps being let out, because he keeps saying he won't do it again, so the authorities let him out, & he murders yet-another innocent life..

I'd force those damn incompetent authorities to be the lives that serial-murderer got to take-out next: teach them some ACCOUNTABILITY, & their future-incarnations would have respect for actuality, one hopes..

They are accessories to that murderer's murders, & they themselves just get off without any accountability??

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We have to have a system which can identify where the system is most failing, & correct that.

Those .. idiots .. who hold that social-pressure's sufficient, & evidence "can't" falsify social-consensus .. need to be deemed criminally incompetent, at least.

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People who cannot be rehabilitated need to be segregated from the population/community.

Period.

The whole calendar-and-prophecy-by-judge method of sentencing is bananas..

It's supposed to be when this person is no-longer a threat for this category of problem, then they are rehabilitated/corrected, & can return into the community.

That is event-driven, not calendar-driven.

Nothing in our current method works that way.

It requires that we be able to test, objectively, the current-unconscious-mind of the people in "corrections".

Brain-imaging, polygraph by true professionals, whatever works.

It's a totally-different sentencing-paradigm, though.

It'd have to also apply to witnesses, though, including official-witnesses, like police, for it to be trustworthy..

( there is a book on journalism which identifies that in a death-sentence case, the police had the confession of the actual-killer, but ignored it, as they wanted this other guy getting executed, so they got this other guy on death-row..

That isn't police-services officers, that is officers who are enforcing evil.

A class of journalism-students got that particular wrong-conviction fixed.

"Elements of Journalism", I've no idea if the current edition has the same story, but the edition I read, years ago, did. )

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I'd say that the problems in the system are sooo all-pervading, that the entire system needs reform, not just any single-aspect of it..

Bias in sentencing? ( seriously, some guy murders & dismembers an Indigenous woman, so he gets 60 DAYS for it, out west? )

Replace judges with some impersonal decision-tree for sentencing, with some kind of metamoderating equivalent for ongoing recalibration..

How make certain that the more-violent-offenders get kept segregated until something changes in their unconscious-mind, if it can?

that requires a systematic triage judging of ALL cases, & prioritizing of the more-violent-offenders.

How about the whole thing where jail ( less-than-2y ttbomk ) & prison ( 2y+ ttbomk ) are NOT manufacturing high-criminality inmates?

That requires a complete paradigm change, as the entire "corrections" system ( with the falsifying-quotes on it ) is oriented to manufacturing inmates, which then helps justifying more enforcement, in the future, through their manufactured/amplified criminality.

( read Logan, King, & Fischer-Wright's book "Tribal Leadership", distilling their research into the 5 culture-levels from inmates/gangmembers in the lowest-level, to LIVING IS SELF-INHERENTLY-AWESOME!! at the top, & see that they have serious qualms about manufacturing mass-shooter grade people as an industry, which is what "corrections" does.

Notice that the 3 categories of "game" anchor their 5 culture-levels:

• win-win game, positive-sum, alliance, anchors CultureLevel5 ( they aren't "stages" as they call them: caterpillar->moth are stages, irreversible. These are levels or modes, reversible, except perhaps the very-top 2 )

• zero-sum game, narcissism, anchors CultureLevel3

• negative-sum game, nihilism, anchors CultureLevel1

: )

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I think finding-of-fact & judging-of-context need to be separated, to clear-out much of the court's backlog..

I think that as much systematic correction of the court's process, & mechanisms, as possible ought be got in, like a thing which replaces Wikipedia, but has ONLY vetted facts in it, so that no more "reinventing hot water" as the Yugoslavs call it, or "reinventing the wheel" as others call it, is wasting our work.

I know from experience that the new system of "Duty Counsel" where there are full-time Duty Counsel lawyers .. DOESN'T work, as they won't do what they ought do, to clear-out cases.

( I had to hire a real lawyer to get all charges dropped against me: it took a carefully-phrased agreement between prosecution & me about what I was declaring wasn't any of my stuff/responsibility. Duty Counsel should have got that done, in the previous 11 or so months. It took awhile to pay-off the $500 that that cost )

I also know from experience that .. I'm not certain I'd trust ANYbody in court, with very-few exceptions ( 1 defense-lawyer I'd trust to automaticallyb understand my meaning & represent me plainly & forthrightly, 1 judge named Peter Wright, I think he retired for health reasons, brilliant loyalty to Justice, in him ) etc..

The unbelievable amount of miscommunication due to different-values, different-intentions, etc, & many of the people cluttering-up the courts system are bragging to all around how they're getting-away-with crime, but in-court they're crying victim, victim, victim.. many lawyers I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw ( I can't throw even a miniaturized lawyer far: the human-scale ones I couldn't even lift )..

The reliance on in-person-ritual is absurd: much of court stuff ought be done electronically..

Self-representation is .. pretty-much impossible, in Ontario, as you aren't permitted to see any related-court-case evidence or decisions, to be able to formulate your case ( Nolo has books on law, for the US, & self-representation is possible there, apparently )

It's simply that there are sooo many different angles requiring drastic-improvement that for anybody to pretend "if you fix this, it'll make the whole thing work much better" is .. absolutely bogus.

EVERYTHING needs fixing in it, from what I saw.

( I'd also legislate that police HAVE TO do due-dilligence when somebody accuses someone of something, to them, instead of just joyously charging whomever the accused is.. with crimes that the accuser themself committed!!

The OPP turned themself into the asswipe of a known criminal, in charging me with that criminal's crimes, AND they wouldn't allow anybody to charge them with any crimes that they committed from then on..

This was a guy who, ttbomk, had robbed a pharmacy with an AK-47, previously.

I was NOT impressed with that "police work". )

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Hell, the high suicide-rate among the good cops is because of rot at the top, of the OPP, ttbomk..

Would clearing-out that wrong-values brass help fix things in the courts??

It probably would help..!

Same with the good people who apparently kept quitting the RCMP ( I've no recent information on this, it was a couple decades ago ), also due to rot at the top, because there simply is no point in trying to make things work, when the top-brass won't tolerate anything to be done with real living integrity..

There have to be indicators of whether a police-services organization, at any scale, precinct to national, NEEDS to have their people-in-authority forced into accountability, NOW..

I know that it should be possible to track witness-suicide rate, as a means of identifying where the police themselves are the criminals, intimidating witnesses to silence them.. the signal may be subtle, but it MUST be detectable, somehow..

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Sorry that this isn't either "pretty" or "nice" or "politically acceptable" or even "low-cost actionable" stuff, but I want civilization to work right, & this stuff matters!

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Finally, we have to orient to harm-reduction, primarily, as mass-shooters prove we cannot enforce Justice: when they off themselves to hide-from consequences, I hold that they're railroading their future-incarnations, enforcing hell-lives on them, out of their narcissism..

but the one who committed the mass-shooting escapes..

So, in those cases, we are helpless to enforce Justice, in any way, whatsoever.

Which is humbling, & needed-calibration.

Once we accept that we can't make our system enforce Justice, then we have to contemplate that all we can do is harm-reduction..

Which is true, to me.

Rule of Just Law .. XOR .. Rule of Legalism?

I hold that Rule of Just Law HAS to outrank Rule of Legalism.

But .. while a guy named Pontius Pilate tried to make that be true, in the Christian bible, he was badmouthed both in the Christian bible AND in the Nicene Creed, for his honest efforts..

Rule of Just Law is also called Natural Law.

Legalism is also called Posit-ive Law ( what is posited is law, what isn't posited isn't, kinda ).

So, Pontius Pilate, the Nuremburg Trials, & .. NOTHING else .. seems to exemplify the West's actually holding to Rule of Just Law, aka Natural ( Moral ) Law.

Legalism, however, defeated Pontius Pilate, convicting the root-guru of the Christians, benJoseph, & legalism still rules now, among the "Christian" legal paradigm of today.

https://www.amazon.ca/How-Think-Like-Lawyer-Why-ebook/dp/B08SMGMX3C/

I got far enough in that book to understand that legalism is ALL law, nowadays.

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Consider the difference between objective & subjective perspectives:

Say person-A is being gradually murdered by Huntington's disease..

& they want mercy-killing..

Say somebody comes along & wants to murder somebody who can't fight-back, & they murder the Huntington's disease patient who wanted mercy-killing..

Was it murder?

From whose perspective??

From the one who wanted release from being gradually-murdered by Huntington's disease? No, it was mercy-killing ( I'm presuming it was a low-suffering method of death, in this example ).

But from the perspective of the one who intentionally murdered.. yes, it was!

So, it wasn't AND it was, murder.

See?

Subjective-perspective & objective-perspective can contradict!

Western law apparently ignores such depth, consistently..

Yet another obstacle to clearing-out the courts, isn't it?

Whatever: there are many many points to consider, when anything so horribly complex as a legal-system needs reform, that it'd take LOTS of people's perspectives, & LOTS of work, to identify the actual obstacles, let-alone resolve any prioritized set-of-fixes to be acting on..

It does need doing, though..

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Does getting this stuff seen by more eyes help?

https://overtheedge.unbc.ca/7-reasons-to-be-afraid-of-pierre-poilievre-the-new-conservative-party-leader/

We can't change the past, but we can damn-well upgrade our fidelity to objectivity since it's our very survival on the line, can't we?

The pseudojournalism working only to normalize the insanity, & to push the population into learned-helplessness .. are NOT our allies.

Globally.

We need to get better at seeing-what-actually-is, real-time!

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1 of my Soul's/Continuum's previous-incarnations was as a bee/hornet/wasp life, & I got to experience a taste of that sentience, decades ago..

I'd say no, for the simple reason that their sentience-on-brain is so incredibly efficient, & there's no .. material-basis .. wasted on that specific kind-of-mind..

There is hesitancy, but ?fear? .. it doesn't fit the Soul-memory right..

( the bee/hornet/wasp family is cladistically/genetically flying-ants, with mutations, so this is actual-relatives )

When you see opposing kinds of ants, each with their fighters lined-up, opposite each-other..

that's about as close as you could get to "fear", right?

In that role, there's applying-threat/force & there's hesitancy, balancing between, but .. I'm not finding, in my Soul-memory of that category-of-life, fear.

Notice, also, that when an ant comes back with an injury, other ants will prune their limbs to limit risk-of-infection, if required.. ( recent news, that ), so they're kinda really pragmatic about things like amputations, you know?

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Here's a simple method for usually getting someone of the bee/hornet/wasp family out from your home, if they get in..

I'm presuming a house, not an apartment-building with sealed-outer-envelope/wall..

1. make certain you haven't got what they register as FOOD or something smelling openly, as scent overrides thinking, throughout much of the animal-kingdom, so no perfume, no open garbage-can with whatever they eat ( wasps eat meat ) overriding their will..

2. block & darken the paths you don't want them going

3. brighten & open the paths you do want them going ( porch light on, to lighten that path, e.g. )

4. if you have to wave your arms gently, wide, to catch their attention, to get them to intentionally-look-there, do so, then simply have one's arms at one's side, & hold still ( you don't need to move slowly for them: they live MUCH quicker than humans do: I saw a man falling, & it was taking ages, in that previous-incarnation )..

5. keep your eyes slitted, as they'll try flying into your eyes, because the dark-pupil looks to them like a home-sized opening.. ( a beekeeper told me this single point, all the rest is of my Soul-memory/experience )

6. they should "swim" ( it feels like swimming, to them: sentience feels wet, in their crustaceans-living-in-the-air lives ) into the open-luminance, leaving your home, happily..

I've tried this, & it only works with that family: it doesn't work with blackflies, it doesn't work with mosquitos, it doesn't work with beetles, etc..

So, it matches my Soul-memory experience's prediction of their sentiences' behavior.

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I think you're ignoring the stage of the world, right now: The Great Filter's where we're at, now.

Imagine a giant "cell", a world with too-many humans to be able to support them all, because humans got adult technology, multiplying humankind's effect 10,000-fold, but .. humans are still part-toddler & part-pubescent tween..

Except now, the Atlantic Meridional Overturning Current ( AMOC ) is shutting-down, Greenland's melting into the North Atlantic ( which will wreck the North Atlantic's ports, later this century ), the actual CO2 & methane levels in this world's atmosphere nail the planet's equilibrium-temperature to between +8C & +9C, most of { California, Texas, Sahara, Saudi-Arabia, India, Outback of Australia } become uninhabitABLE by about +4C, & the political-tantrum, the ideological-tantrum the "religious"-tantrum, etc, all are stacking-up on top of the panic-migrations that are going to be forced shortly..

& then ask the Russia question..

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What's actually happening, is that humankind is going-through

• mitosis, with ideologues/prejudice-supremacists/"religion"-supremacists warring to force-extinguish considered-reasoning, & the considered-reasoning people accustomed to coddling, whereas not it's do-or-die survival for humankind
• The Great Filter, aka species-puberty, where some subset of humankind grows-up XOR all of humankind is "naturally selected against" this century, leaving our world extinguished of our kind
• ideological-nationalism is fighting to force-extinguish all other modes, so it can then get to "rule" the world, while the world dies..

etc..

Pick a view, in other words..

I don't believe that country-nationalism CAN survive The Great Filter: I believe that it has to be Blue Marble Earth "nation" or it's going to be factional-supremacists exterminating humankind for their own "authority" and "supremacy" and "importance" until humankind's completely nonviable, & functionally finished..

The Kahneman1-mind, imprint->reaction mind, lower-forebrain, ideology/prejudice/"religion" which "doesn't need to consider: it INHERENTLY just knows" ..

is fighting to force-extinguish Kahneman2-mind, considered-reasoning mind, upper-forebrain, studying-and-accepting-evidence mode, because Universe is sooo much more complexer than we default to ignorantly assume..

( Daniel Kahneman's "Thinking Fast and Slow" is part of the root of this understanding: it's literally a species-wide fighting-off of growing-up, to "return to the animals-&-tribes-times", that the "biblical" people want to enforce, but it's ALL ideologies wanting to enforce, the non-thinking REACTING nature of it )

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Now ask:

IS Russia, in the crunch-time of this world, going to suddenly replace ideology with critical-thinking-education & considered-reasoning??

No?

THEN Russia is warring for the obliteration of considered-reasoning.

Do the same question for EVERY nation in this world, & add-up the results.

You will find that the white-blue-white Russians are committed to considered-reasoning, but the white-blue-red Russians are not..

Same with all countries: there are some who want their animal-reaction obliterating all competitors from the face of this Universe, there are others who understand that the Copernican revolution ( no, neither Sun nor G-D revolves around "the world of Man". ) never went far-enough, & that we have to accept that in the Great Scheme of Things(tm), we are .. sentient dust!

& if we accept that we are much more likely to be developmentally-backward citizens of this Universe, objectively, & that is too-much of an ego-hit for the animal-reaction ideologues..

Ask about the Confederates!

Ask about the CCP!

Ask about the Rupert Murdoch populist-dictatorship people! ( the elegant & brilliant remapping of Leninism from left to right, from proletariat-dictatorship to populist-dictatorship. Both Leninism & Murdochism are evil, in my eyes, but the efficiency with-which they eradicate uprightness from civilizations: they're like efficient cancer!

I want considered-reasoning, & Issue-Diagrams, & responsibility-archy, & accountability, they want authority-without-accountability-or-responsibility, so they're on the opposite side, but .. you simply have to admire efficiency when it's that much greater than one's own side's work, even while working to counter it..

maybe people who aren't systems-creatures won't understand that, but systems-people .. effectiveness can itself be beautiful )

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So, what I see is that focusing in Russia is actually like moving tables on the sinking of the Titanic: solving the wrong problem.

The Global Fascist Alliance, with Putin, Trump+Musk, Millei, Farage, Le Pen, Orban, etc.. they've got real strength in this world, & they're going to GUT civil-rights from our planet, permanently, if they can.

The left is .. making-believing that it isn't a survival-situation, that "the next election we can just take it back" .. but anybody who sees just how stunningly fast the shredding-of-the-US-civil-society is progressing..

https://www.project2025.observer/

See on there that they're assuming there's going to be an election to replace Trump?

Idiocy: there isn't.

That's the kind of making-believing I'm talking about: comforting making-believing while being herded into the abbatoir.

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Russia & the US are solid allies, & NATO is their enemy, now.

Period.

This was predicted by some, for the last few years.

The quicker that the rest-of-NATO realizes this, the greater the percentage of their people will survive.

Within 3y, the US will be waging total war on Canada, because only through possessing both Canada & Greenland can the US corner Europe between Russia & the entirely-continental US of A.

Annihilating the hated-by-both-Putin-and-Trump woke EU means that they then get to be the only "kings" left in the West.

Trump's annexing of Greenland isn't for ice-rights, or mineral-rights, it is for military force-projection against Europe.

The EU's trojanned, with Orban, so they're hamstrung.

England gutted itself with Brexit.

The multi-dimensional-assault is elegant..

https://www.desmog.com/2025/03/14/heritage-foundation-project-2025-allies-mcc-ordo-iuris-discuss-dismantling-the-eu-european-union/

for the soft-force, butcher Europe through politics, but .. the physical-butchering of the EU is obliged, apparently, in Putin & Trump's hearts..

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Arm to the teeth, & fight to the death.

That is the only real way left.

1st Ukraine, then .. Canada & Europe, ie TrueNATO.

IF we remain standing when the US's war-against-itself implodes it, THEN we'll be standing to be having the CCP throwing all their Asian Empire ( the US should be able to be rampaging our Western world until .. sometime in 2031 or so? & with the West all "occupied" by that, China can simply smash all "independence" from Asia, without our being able to do ANYthing about it. ) against us, when the US fails..

So, it'll simply be like those idiotic "opponents" in computer-games, who wait at the side, until you've dealt-with the current one, then the next one piles-on..

IF CCP waits until the Russia+US alliance collapses, THEN .. it gets to wallop an already-exhausted TrueNATO, right?

Even better, it gets to finance Russia's rampaging of Europe, while pretending it isn't "involved", the whole time that Russia+US are warring against TrueNATO, & then once that bit's done, it can overtly own Russia, its now-economic-vassal-state..

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Sorry this isn't lining-up with "what to do about Russia" as it was intended.

but surviving this century requires we get guts, drive, & upright instinct, pronto.

We need to become more like Ukraine has been, but not the naive-fool that Zelenskiy is being, in assuming that the US is somehow his, & not Putin's, ally, now.

( I pray he gets his head out of the sand, immediately )

This is a literal deathmatch, a war-of-attrition between enemy-intents who .. most of them .. simply don't care if nobody survives on this world, so long as nobody of the others survives.

Wrong-framing means a greater percentage of humankind are extinguished, this-century, is all.

It saves zero lives, it offers less effective "comfort" than alcohol: Hopium COST the Dems in the US their country.

We need to not let it drug us, too.

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Not particularly: often they really are pertinent in both communities, & it is better to speak redundantly than to not-be-heard in 1 domain where one needs to be heard..

That isn't to say all crossposts are honest, though: spammers exist, & need to be .. um .. packaged inside cans of processed-pork, until they stop spamming?

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I think the question is backwards, & therefore accidentally missing-the-point..

( same as the survivor-bias question, back in WW2 EDIT: here's the link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=P9WFpVsRtQg )

It isn't that we see most pets as cute, rather, it is that if it isn't cute, it isn't a pet.

So, we're looking-at an immensely selective subset of animals, & then framing the question on that misrepresentation..

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We tend to see babies, of most mammals, as cute, because of some generic wiring in us that codes for that, it seems .. AND ..

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One time, while living homeless out in the bush, I heard crashing through the leaves going this-way, then pausing, then going that-way..

unzipped my "tent" & looked out.. it was a newborn fawn, seeing the world for the 1st time..

its presence-energy was one of the most-beautiful things I've ever seen..

Notice that humans tend to prefer looking at youthful humans?

I find that there are several different reasons, but that most people aren't conscious of them..

Lack of wrinkles & scars, OK, smooth, fit, .. vital..

Right-there's part of it: vital.

Ever seen healthy kittens, & their simple clean vitality?

What civilized-life erodes from us?

Another part of it is that when you're old, like me, & you spend ages digging into things, & realize stuff like ..

.. Karl Marx honestly believed that communism meant the un-alienation of the proletariat, because he believed that communism somehow inherently meant "everybody owns everything, together", but ..

.. ask the actual-survivors of communism, & it's always "nobody owns anything, & nobody cares for anything", which is why the expression of communism is Brutalism, historically

( and anybody who pretends that the ecological brutalism of communism isn't valid evidence, can go eat rocks )..

well, the young are .. mentally blank, aren't they?

Want a friend you're not going to get into profound ideological disputes with?

DON'T pick an old human, whose spent their life being battered by life, & thinking on it all.

Instead pick someone who's still in Kegan3, but permanently ( Robert Kegan's unconscious-mind-development stages 3, 4, & 5, can be described as

• Kegan3: absorbing experience, wanting to feel liked - this is the mode of cows, who associate with validity, because they aren't bulling, themselves.
• Kegan4: bulling-boss mode: pushing-out incompatible-meaning, & instinct that if anybody else has any validity, that subtracts from own-validity, ie all is zero-sum-game for validity. This is the mode of bulls, fighting for dominance - it is limbic, not any kind of conscious-decision.
• Kegan5: systems-of-systems mode: what the best "Elders" of the indigenous people had earned, what the "elder generals" of the ancient times had earned, etc.

( Kegan & Lahey's "Immunity to Change" book is on our unconscious-mind's fighting-off of growing-up, its sabotaging our lives, & how to work around that innate-mechanism, getting it to understand, so growing-up, moving from dysfunction to function, can happen in our lives.

It's a book I'd require all high-school kids to read at-least part of, so when they need to read it for real, they'll remember it, & find a library, & dig-in )

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But whom do we want as pets?

Pretty-much always we want Kegan3 ( or lower? ) types as pets: NOT people who compete with us for validity, right?

We're wanting, iow, dependents, we're wanting substitute children without the wrestling-match of actual-human-children..

Now multiply the only-cute-animals-get-chosen-as-pets * we-want-substitute-children-without-the-difficulties-of-human-children ..

& you're getting a "furbaby", right?

There's another angle to add-in..

Feral animals do NOT have the same psychology as pets: pets are developmentally-removed, more "baby-like" in their manner, their behavior, etc..

I've come across a few people who pointed this out, & considering it through the years, they're right ( I spent 1/3-decade rough in the bush: they're very right ).

So, we only select cute pets, we want them to be pseudo-children, AND we make them only partly grow-up, so they never become adult in the ways of their own kind ( usually with either ruthless killing or with ruthless herd-behaviors involved, as with horses, who'll force a reject-of-their-herd to do without food, & die, because that's the way their herds work )..

Again, we're looking through "rose colored" glasses, & seeing "the question" as being only what our distortion of reality allows..

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All I'm trying to do is get people to see feral animals as the correct frame-of-reference for animals, & then see how we've babied-down/dumbed-down our pets, & how we do this for our own emotional-comforting, to have someone who "needs" us ( when we're bothering to be home where they live: when we're at work, they're just "furniture" or something?? unfair to them, tbh )..

& this is deforming our ability to understand what the true-questions are..

I agree with some who hold that experience with pets & herd-beasts is required for someone to really, honestly, understand human growing-up..

but I'm adamant that outgrowing "dependents" is required for people to earn more-complete self-conquering, more-complete growing-up.

Codependency is what people default-to, nowadays, whereas independence is the root of interdependence, what Stephen R. Covey called "synergy".

I don't think he made it strong/clear enough, just how independent one needs to be ( for us guys, I've no idea how it maps to women's reality ), in order for interdependence to not be codependence..

Anyways, just a bit of perspective that may be useful ..

A psychiatrist explained to me, years ago, that women are much more likely to attempt suicide, but by using less-violent means, are much less-likely to succeed in terminating their lives.

Males are less likely to try it, but more likely to succeed.

Girls/women usually try pills, overdoses, guys usually try something violent.

See the "more suicides are tried by girls & women" part of the equation, not just the "more successful suicides are by males" part of the equation.

( I've faint marks from when I opened both wrists with a scalpel-blade, when I was about 10yo, and haven't had the guts to intentionally make-absolutely-certain of my termination .. perhaps-ever.

Both parts of the equation I'm identifying are offensive/wrong, and mis-representing of what's actually going on, as various "activist" factions do, is what I'm attacking. )