Zebrafive

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[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 15 hours ago

I will return to this comment often for the link, very helpful. Thanks.

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

Hmmm I didn't know this.

So during the assessment there should be two evaluator? Amd if there is only one, maybe I should be suspect?

I use and to begin sentences now, I believe to be acceptable by some style guides or general practice. Perhaps some do not, opinions?

Thanks for the reply

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 15 hours ago

I find taxes, for example, to be inconsequential, immediately. I also find taxes to be...I cannot start until I get every iota of paperwork needed and not needed but deemed important by myself for unknown reasons. And then I dont get those papers, or I do but I dont actually get the papers I need only the accessory things I felt very important. Somewhat overwhelming when combined with other tasks. "Gotta do taxes" "but i NEED to so laundry" "gotta fold clothes, BUT I dont really" so on and so fourth.

Thank you for your reply. I suppose what I need to do is be more mindful of symptoms and 'watch myself more closely' until the assessment.

I do find moving my toes up and down is comforting, sometimes rocking my upper torso (when i know im not being observed) is also comforting. But it feels natural like probably everyone does that a little bit. Especially when very stressed.

The social criteria is the main mover or primary motivation for seeking diagnoses. I dont know if it this or that disorder but I have always felt different amd been described in various ways as being different. I find it bery hard to imagine how one can meet friends, maintain friends, let alone have a long term romantic partner who lives in the same household. I never make eye contact as it makes it me lose my train of thought.Eye contact seems like a thing that is directly opposed to meaningful conversation, how can anyone focus and fully flesh out a thought when staring at a goblet of eye. I do feel as though I have higher than average knowledge of how others feel or what their emotions are when speaking to them. I believe this to be an adaptation based on my life.

A mannerism I've been called out on is that my vocal volume is so low thst people cannot hear me and then I will begin to shout a few randomly. This is because I randomly remember that I am prone to speaking too quietly. This has resulted in comedic situations, and people being genuinely upset (angry) thst I was yelling at them.

Thanks foe the reply

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Ah this was a thorough reply.

The memes are fairly relatable.

No one has diagnosed me. I am speaking to a psychologist whom I specifically asked for an autism and ADHD diagnoses. Im awaiting the actual assessment after filling out a bunch of papers.

A lot his questions like: do you often not hear your name? Do you find a particular texture uncomfortable? I am find myselfing answering no. It has happened, I believe several times, but its hard to recall these things. The only stimulation I find quite irritable is like a club atmosphere and large crowds in grocery stores or other brightly lit clinical settings eith crowds. Clubs make me feel immediately irritable and tired amd stressed

 

I am a person, 31, I have at times had the thought that 'I must be Autistic' and other times I have had the complete opposite thought. Currently, after taking a few online batteries and reading a bit more Im quite sure I am not.

Reasons I think I am not revolve around 3 symptoms/ criteria - repetitive gestures and routines.

I do; however, highly suspect I have ADHD.

I suppose my question 'boils down' to this, probably naaive idea thst autism is the exact opposite of ADHD, where I struggle entirely with keeping my apartment clean, getting taxes done, and enjoying my hobbies (increasing knowledge of topics I like, collecting thinks revolving around the topics, engaging in regularl, habitual activities with structure-structured engagement). It seems that Autism would he a silver bullet if I could somehow catch it.

I know this is ignorant, naaive and maybe even disrespectful or hurtful. I also am aware that there is a significant percentage of people who have both. I'd like to say that I do not mean to hurtful in this today's impulsive quest.

Questions for real this time--

*If you are Autism/ADHD, which did your doctor notice/diagnose first?

Which did you notice might be apparent first, if you weren't diagnosed by guidance of parents?

Do you feel a constant friction between these two sorts of things? *

I suppose I really have quite a number of questions if you (individuals whom are AuDHD or either or and are also reading this post on this phenomenon)feel like fielding them.

Apologies for the poor structure. And I hope to hear your inputs.

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 38 points 21 hours ago (5 children)

Our government is run by Vogons

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Time to read yes

For me its the attention amd focused I've got time, just not tje attention and motivation (I fantasize but procrastinate)

I have been the 3rd or 4th dune book for about a year now (I have been on the last 50 pages or so for probably 6 montjs)

I have resd the first half or so of Don Quixote about 3 times

I habe now started to read Herodotus Histories for the 2nd time (didn't finish last time stopped around half way thru Book 2)

And I made the (fortuitous?) mistake of starting Hitch hikers Guide to the galaxy twice now and I did really enjoy it right off the bat, so that one might rise to the top of the list lol

I have also begun reading Amadis of Gaul due to interest in Medeival Chicalry novels and I've yet to finish King Arthur (Mark Twain) whereat I only have maybe 100pgs left. (Not a good book, TBH but it gives some background to Quixote as does Amadis of Gaul

LOTR is definitely also in this ridiculous list of want to reads. As is

Divine Comedy Aeneid Decameron Pilgrims Progress Infinite Jest Grapes of Wrath Something by Ishiguro Metamorphosis etc etc etc

I should make a post about this so.I can properly.vent instead of 'hijacking comments'

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 6 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Yeah I get it and I dont deny that. Having never read the books though, I find the movies to be somewhat difficult to follow and with the exception (probably) of the first movie, I simply dont find them memorable or ranked high in my own mind as something I want to re watch.

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 9 points 5 days ago (9 children)

I've always found Harry Potter universe to be quite campy. But I also never got into Lord of the Rings and thought Game of Thrones was awful so my opinion on television media may not be average or popular.

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 0 points 6 days ago

Great post rabber

I quite enjoy how their whiskers seem to cuddling eachothers daintily, but with a small amount of respectable distance given their head tilts.

I also enjoyed the colors of the right side cat, it is quite striking, reminiscent of cookies and creme.

Cat on the left appears to have slightly rounder/wider pupils which is isnt concerning, but an observation of mine which may or may not he correct.

Thanks for sharing

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That is very kind of you considering your neighbors privacy, we certainly could use some more of that in today's age of fast-short-unfulfilling media (insta/tik tok).

I certainly did not mean anything negative, I am just tying to contribute, and I quite like cats so I am trying to encourage those who are posting because it makes me a little bit less sad!

My one and only cat-mane coon-- I had-I had for a short time. He was Benny. Father did not like him so much, one day he got out and no one did anything about it.

I hope he was happier. He used to climb in bed and wake up with me before work at 4 or so A.M. I think he was an 'aggressive lover' maybe in the way he expressed himself, and thst caused some annoyance to the Father.

Ill bet going outside for Miez was a very exciting part of his life, a new experience

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 1 week ago

I like to fantasize about owning a cat.

I like to think I could train them to sit atop my head while I walk around the house cleaning or in the neighborhood.

This would be a great cat for atop-the-head placement.

Excellent post thank you

[–] Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I would like to have a coffee out on that yard with a cat so handsome as this one.

Review: Scenery: 8/10 Great tree, beautiful color of foliage, perhaps the angle could expose more of the open space Subject: 9/10 Not too sure what would make it 10/10 but I think the cat expresses maturity, politeness, strength of health and bravery. It is a fearless organism worthy of respect. And he or she whom they love is also worthy of a similar respect.

Thank you I enjoyed viewing this

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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by Zebrafive@lemmy.myserv.one to c/adhd@lemmy.world
 

I suspect I have ADHD (maybe inattentive).

Never have suspected this to be true until a few months ago - I am 31 years old.

Sadly, I used to think about people who said they have ADHD were making excuses for their poor behavior or work performance. (Sorry I guess)

'Everyone has a little bit of ADHD' 'We are all a little autistic'

How do you folks deal with statements such as these? And is it possible the people saying this are undiagnosed amd projecting (like I think I was)?

Recently when someone says that I simple say 'No, (disorder x, y, z) is a (category i.e. developmental) disorder meaning the person's CNS or psyche has developed incorrectly'

Which simply yields more arguing. . .

My next question---

Background - I have struggled my whole life with life. My apartment is constantly messy save a few weeks out of the year, my insurance goes un updated and I drive illegally, I do not speak to people for days on end (family included), deadlines are almost never met, the phrase 'anything without immediate and serous consequence, is invisible and impossible to do' is very accurate to my entire life.

I have been searching for 31 years (more or less) for explanations as to why I am so much more dysfunctional than my peers

Question: Is ADHD/ADD really this debilitating, or must it be a combination of things?

Because if this ultimately explains most if not all of my difficulties, why isnt this treated as a severe disability? Because I am barely capable of doing anything if there.

Are no immediate consequence - and for many adult things- there are not.

Additional ramble- I initiated an assessment with a psychologist outside of my insurance coverage as it has been too difficult for me to navigate the system so I am paying out of pocket. I initially asked for an autism/ADHD assessment/ but after doing more learning I see autism as less likely in my case although perhaps I dont know.

I am so frustrated that at 31 years old and multiple encounters with psychologist, psychiatrists and other MDs none have ever even hinted at ADHD the most I've gotten is--mild and or moderate depression, general anxiety/social anxiety

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