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Your stance on the age-inappropriate reminds me of what @southsamurai commented! I've definitely seen a lot of "Don't protect your child too hard by concealing the inappropriate from them" lately. I wonder how many modern parents are shifting to that ideal.

"Kids respond well to being treated seriously." (from Vox, "Why safe playgrounds aren't great for kids", 3:17)

You mention that there are some cases where parental controls would help, but you also mentioned that, (1) regarding inapproriacy, you shouldn't baby children and (2) regarding screen time, BananaKing's take is the best route. Doesn't that cover both aspects of where parental controls would be used? What cases would you say parental controls would help with?

Someone downvoted but I want to hear your differing stance so I upvoted. (Come on fellow lemmings ` . ` let's melting-pot a little!)

Anyway -- your belief is interesting, though I feel like I might disagree! Seems similar to @Contramuffin's upbringing, but more extreme.

How would you train them beforehand? Or would you just drop them into the archetypal sink-or-swim? Don't you think the kid would feel lonely, say, if they stumbled on a jumpscare video and got the heebie-jeebies but you didn't help? Everyone makes mistakes. And outside of scarring -- what if your kid turns into one of those YouTube Kids jockeys?

Is your hypothetical "Tough shit, deal with it and get stronger" approach similar to how you were raised?

Click to view diffs is super ergonomic; on the other hand, I actually have a story about the Git CLI trumping the GUI (spoiler: reflog).

In high school we had gotten the funding to build a robot, and one of the adults in charge -- guy was brilliant -- was using GitHub Desktop to conduct a feature merge with the student who served as team lead. The thing was, he was used to older codebases, so all of his experience was with CVS instead of Git -- so when the two slightly messed up the git merge, they discussed recloning everything instead of wasting time plumbing the error (relevant xkcd).

That was one of the earliest times I had the cajones to walk up to a superior and say "No, you're doing this totally wrong. You don't have to do that."

He looked at me and nodded. "What would you do instead?"

"Reflog."

"Reflog? I've never heard of it before. Can you show us?"

I hopped onto the laptop and clicked around GitHub Desktop, but couldn't manage to find any buttons related to reflog... so I went straight to cmd.exe instead.

git reflog
git reset --hard "HEAD@{7}"

"Done. We can continue rebasing."

And after that, the advisor complimented me for using the command line tool!

"Lots of GUI apps are just limited frontends to the real meat and potatoes, the command line. Nice job!"

I felt like a wizard! And so I became the team's Git-inator.

edit: pruned story

That makes a lot of sense! Definitely much less friction in that approach -- clearly delineated boundaries, decently low pressure, and secure trust without the ethical quandary.

...don't attempt technical solutions to administrative problems.

Good advice.

Thanks for the in-depth response!

My parents "let health class do the job" and kept their eyes closed -- regarding porn -- so your punishmentless one-on-ones are new and interesting to me. Trust is definitely the most vital here.

Someone downvoted you but I'd like to hear differing opinions, so I upvoted.

By teaching the child how to circumvent these measures, what do you mean by that? Do you teach them to break your router rules? And when would you do that -- when they appear mature enough to you? Of course, there's the chance that they don't like tech.

Imaginarily, my kid and I could have some arms-race fun, but I don't know how realistic that is.

Don't leave us hanging!

That's fair. I'd probably wouldn't hang up a Git cheatsheet myself either. It still looks pretty though -- it's a dark-background Kool Knowledge poster, what's not to love? Like this evolution of Euler's formula one.

(Which I haven't acquired either :|)

aesthetic. need i say more?

Alternatively, the Git CLI is pretty flexible and inertia makes me stick to CLI-only lmao. Plus, PowerShell git completion is meh.

(Not that GUI is bad. GitHub Desktop diffing is pretty.)

Oh, I color-inverted it...(；・.・)

The original is here, which is indeed light mode.

edit: see palor's comment :P

Hahaha, I'm overjoyed that you're joyful! Net positive.

You aren't alone on the absolutivity thing, autism or not. Absolute blanket statements have always made me uncomfortable. With stuff like

Leftists are all self-righteous.

American Republicans are all backwards.

Christians are cultists.

and the obvious accompanying internet convoy of

Clicks -> discussion -> algorithm promotion -> pipeline -> opinions upgrade from "bad cases of" to "lots of them" to "all of them"

not only sacrifice nuance and make it easy to Just Stay Agreeable, but discourage any questioning of the status quo.

Of course, one can argue that this is an online thing, an archetype of Reddit and Tumblr and Twitter spaces, but now I don't even question these things aloud in real life. I don't want to be seen as

The "see-from-all-sides" guy is obviously a closeted bigot lmao.

in a place where reputation actually matters, but it'd be easy to lump me in like that. Nuancelessness is simple, kneejerk, catchy...

Now, my point. I don't think I'm making this up, and maybe I'll get downvoted for this diatribe but I feel like disagreeing in real life has become much riskier. Am I sounding cynical again? As a solution (solutions aren't cynical right?), optimally I'd want a way to discuss across views in an educated, "I'll hear you out" way, but the real-life risk outweighs reward, and online spaces bubble-up really easily. Counterpoint: r/changemyview has put up promising resistance.

The other day I saw this business school complaint discussion. It's on a kind of out-of-touch subreddit, but what do you think of its survivalistic smile-and-wave message?

Sorry for being so negative =.=

Wow, really interesting take! Made me realize...

Wow. I'm the baddie.

I've done my fair share of admit "AI bad, Twitter bad" and felt that shift towards cynicism, I admit -- but 'til now I couldn't see my own hand in the subject. I'd worked hard over the years to avoid the more overt frustrator communities like r/facepalm, but as much as I'd like to presume... I'm clearly not doing so much better after all.

That ambient cynicism... I still perpetuated it, I still wrote those kneejerk comments, I still went on the preordained in-group spiel of valuelessnesses.

It's so easy to insult the things you mentioned, to partake in the "I Want to be Agreeable and Get Points" mindset and dunk. But it's precluding our ability to experience the things you mentioned in para #4. I want more of para #4 in my life... I'll need to think things differently.

Idk. Thanks for the meaningful substance. :p