It will depend entirely on the accommodations you are asking of them. What seems unreasonable to them may feel reasonable to you, and the same the other way around.
More details would definitely be useful here.
I didn't know about Sandrider before this compilation was announced, but I'm definitely gonna check out their discography now. The March of the Pigs cover goes hard.
That sounds like a reasonable request.
If you're open to advice, I'd suggest exploring communicating and unpacking needs with your partner. In the example you've given, you've shared with her that you need things written down in order to better remember a task. Her reply "you should just be able to remember" is unhelpful on it's surface, but it's possible that behind that is a need that's being unmet. Perhaps she feels she's not being listened to? it's worth exploring this with her.