Thanks and I'm glad you're on a similar journey. Well, not glad you had to start the journey, but glad you're progressing on it.
I have grief for the mother I didn't have, but it's ok.
Yeah. I started therapy for "anger management" (I got so frustrated at unmet needs that I bent a fork in half at a restaurant, which caused my still-boyfriend to urge me into therapy).
Two months in, my mom visited and was flagrantly awful in ways I couldn't emotionally repress. That helped my therapist zero in on the real issue and forced me to recognize it as well.
My pocketbook is poorer but my non-relationship with my mom is much healthier. Oh! And I now am much better able to recognize my unmet needs and meet them before I bend a fork.
I've started only taking my meds one day a week on the weekend. Partner and I both want a cleaner house but I am mess blind when not medicated.
Work, work is varied enough to keep my attention. I don't need my meds for work, just for home. One day a week seems to be enough to make progress towards a more functional home.
My mom: you don't need therapy; all a therapist will do is tell you everything is your mom's fault
(Spoiler: I did and they did and it was)
Yes, I blame my dog for being a messy eater who is resistant to my efforts to get him to use a place mat. He keeps grabbing a mouthful of food, walking over to the carpet, dropping the food, then eating off the carpet.
Happily, our carpets are washable. I just don't wash them every time I feed the dog.
I think seeing it live did make a difference. We didn't know what was going to happen next. When we saw the second plane hit, at first we thought it was a recording of the first plane. It was traumatic.
I don't know if you'd get the same reaction nowadays. Our media environment is much more fractured, I don't know if you'd have the same experience. Even January 6th, it felt like I had a tad more control because I could choose where to get my information from, instead of having the one news channel.
I watched human beings jump out of skyscrapers live, my homeroom class. It had an impact.
And then everything went nuts, the Patriot act got passed, and the whole WMD bullshit, and my whole high school encircled the building and prayed. Nuts.
Curiousity: Could you please explain what was awful about the comment you responded to?
For context, I'm also autistic.
I've taught literal toddlers that my dog needs his alone time when he's in his crate.
A 10 year old should be able to understand that sometimes people just don't want to play/talk. Maybe wear headphones or some other very visible indicator that you're not social right then?
I'm team pour-over coffee maker. It goes in the dishwasher every now and then. All parts are visible, so I know if it looks groddy.
True! Let's encourage them to work towards goals that seem attainable and worthwhile.
Sometimes, just small changes can make a big difference to the individual. I used to take the elevator to my 5th-floor office. Now I take the stairs. The only conscious change to my routine was converting from carrying a bag/purse to carrying a backpack--I carry the same amount of stuff more comfortably, and so the stairs don't seem daunting.
Woodblock print of a grumpy-faced man in a tunic shoving a lion in the face. The lion's head is turned towards the viewer and he has a goofy look on his face. His tail is held high. The man holds a club in his left hand. Surrounding the lion and man is a tree, an embankment, and foliage.
Found at: The British Museum
Image description: Japanese print with orange background. Print shows various circus performers, including people interacting with horses, an elephant on a barrel, a man standing on a tiger holding a second tiger's mouth open and a third tiger resting on his arm, clowns tumbling, acrobats, and horses on a teeter-totter.
Found at: Library of Congress
Image description: metal statue of a man wrestling with a lion.
Found at The Smithsonian.
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No, because I no longer have a prescriber. They decided to not refill my antidepressants without telling me, then I had to scramble to get a refill through my primary care doctor (or go cold turkey off of my meds, which is a Bad Plan with my specific antidepressant).
So, what I have is what I have until I find a new brain doctor, which isn't happening any time soon because ADHD.
Also something something don't share prescription medication.