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So if this goes through I’ve got to vaporize my current non-sheltered investments… fucking hell, being forced to invest in real estate because the US is having a public freak out

Not necessarily the case here but the word “literally” can be used figuratively so what’s the point of your comment anyway?

Not saying "trust", I'm saying "might be interesting, evaluate it".

I find Beeline quiet routes generally pretty likeable, so I do give them a try from time to time.

I'd give it a try. It's probably a very basic suggestion algorithm that is just being labeled AI because why not, AI is the new Metaverse so everything gotta have AI in it to make it flashy.

That's what this paragraph seems to indicate:

Strava says every activity is now automatically analysed by a machine learning model, which looks at 57 different factors, such as speed and acceleration.

They properly call it Machine Learning, meaning that this is probably old school supervised techniques instead of LLMs so it means it's just a glorified linear regression. Should be fine.

saying and doing nothing feels a bit like pulling up the ladder behind me

I think I understand where you're coming from, but if you can let go of having the guard up against the very real barrage of criticism you have to face as you dive deeper into deconstructing masculinity, you can still try to provide the safe space you wish you had on your journey. It's not a matter of silencing yourself, it's more like: understanding where that friction is coming from, then learning how to plow through and still develop oneself with the constructive feedback, then being there for others you recognize could use a gentler nudge towards a better path.

Rest nicely and be safe out there.

Absolutely. Not only I think women are overly criticized for growing contemptuous of men, that too is dwarfed in damage caused by manhood. Like any violence-related metric, I think men are the biggest source of misandry anyway. Just like men reserve their love and admiration for men, their highest forms of hatred, envy and scorn are often also men. So it's not like men don't say things equivalent to "men are shit", we do it a lot too - we just try to create a group for which that is the exception (and of course, including ourselves). For example, all this bullshit around "soy boy" and "alfa/beta/sigma". This is just men prejudice against men, in roundabout ways tied to performative masculinity.

so I’ve been in group texts with my predominantly women friend-group and they feel comfortable enough to speak freely. They absolutely say stuff like “all men are trash” and mean it

I've got bad news for you: conservative (or whatever other self identifying right-wing) woman also say this. But the good news is that your friend-group is not necessarily representative of "the left".

Men need help, but it’s their fault that they are like this and they’ll need to solve it

It's also true, though. One is said nicely, one is said violently. But despite that, some women still spend an inordinate amount of time trying to bridge that gap. Books and presentations and workshops etc are dedicated to rescuing men. You just can't expect this from every individual, that's unrealistic.

Before any more responses show up to say "ah my leftist wife/friend says men are shit", my wife does that too. My wife has a general dislike against men. That's not news to me, and doesn't change anything regarding what I said above.

lol fair enough, and it's perhaps a not very useful point to dwell anyway, it seems it was just an example

I mean, I have no shame in acknowledging that I too had and may still have from time to time some resentment. Maybe I'm projecting? But I do see in your writing the mindspace I recognize personally. It's part of being in a privileged position while also suffering the negative consequences of said privilege. It really is uncomfortable to be told that I'm the problem when, from my point of view, I'm trying to get rid of the problem.

But both are true, so I do think it's easier to get through this by letting go of this peeve. Yeah sure a bunch of women will say they'd rather come across a bear when hiking, some will wear t-shirts saying that all men are garbage, some misandrists will yell that all cis males need to have their dicks chopped off. But if that's what the majority of your experience of "the left" is, there's something wrong with the composition of your social life. "The left" is more than that, and in that regard it's just a fine place to be, even if it's one that will not let me forget that I still have lots of ingrained sexism - I really do, I would not pass infinitely narrow "purity tests" as you say. Same for racism, transphobia, ageism, ableism etc (which is why I said this experience is universal).

Sometimes when the little kid invites you to play tea time, you gotta hold the plastic teacup and say yum

Sure, it means “redress socioeconomic inequality and impose greater fairness for all” but it sure doesn’t say that.

So what's the issue, again? Just that it sounds scary?

Why is "eat the reach" messaging that "lost the plot" if the slogan does exactly what it's supposed to do (be powerful and popular, appealing to human nature)?

And at which point does messaging about the source of oppression stop guarding against the natural human inclination to substitute “source demographic” with “individual in that demographic?”

I don't know, you tell me. I don't see rich people getting the short end of a stick because out there a bunch of protestors are holding "eat the rich" plaques. I still don't quite get what's this phrase being used as an example for given it's so inconsequential.

I see. You are resentful for having your flaws exposed by people who do not concern themselves with making this comfortable for you. That, I can agree, is a common experience for men. It's not the same thing as "the left says that you're evil because you have a Y chromosome", though.

The irony is that this isn't specific to men either. The same journey applies to everyone. Hope you find a group that can help you grow in a safer space, though such things are not a given, unfortunately.