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I'll hazard a guess. It's because male culture and masculine values are fucked. Older men are lonely because they either cannot find friends, or already reached the conclusion it was time to both stop looking and lose the ones they had, for various reasons. Younger men left in a cultural vacuum are reinventing masculinity as a toxic caricature guided by the only affirming male role models they can find outside the home: social media influencers.
Meanwhile, the predominant message from the left, as observed in generalities and absent nuance, is all the ways having a Y chromosome makes you evil. With an apparent choice between self-flagellation and asserting a sense of inherent superiority as both an emotional shield and path to an in-group with shared values, I really can't say I'd choose any better in my younger, immature form.
So here we are, in 2025 where the battle of the sexes is now a political movement and even one that's quite happy to pick your side for you if you dare present ambiguously. We're just a little fashion subtlety away from wearing arm bands, either to declare for the feminists or the anti-woke, or just to dodge social conscription.
Meh people keep saying this, but this comes mostly from the right that likes to amplify the most fringe leftist stuff for rage bait. The predominant message from the left is that men need help. Leftist outlets, influencers, thinkers and communicators routinely try to bridge that gap, but the "fuck your feelings" crowd is only interested in hate-watching the tiktoks of a random punk saying that men are shit.
This is absolutely not true. I'm kinda like a "traitor" who doesn't get viewed as a man, so I've been in group texts with my predominantly women friend-group and they feel comfortable enough to speak freely. They absolutely say stuff like "all men are trash" and mean it, some of them like to brag about stuff like pretending to date a guy in order to get him to help them move before ghosting him. They say shit like "you're one of the good ones" without an ounce of self-awareness.
The message from liberals that I see is "Maybe men need help, but it's their fault that they are like this and they'll need to solve it."
I've got bad news for you: conservative (or whatever other self identifying right-wing) woman also say this. But the good news is that your friend-group is not necessarily representative of "the left".
It's also true, though. One is said nicely, one is said violently. But despite that, some women still spend an inordinate amount of time trying to bridge that gap. Books and presentations and workshops etc are dedicated to rescuing men. You just can't expect this from every individual, that's unrealistic.
Before any more responses show up to say "ah my leftist wife/friend says men are shit", my wife does that too. My wife has a general dislike against men. That's not news to me, and doesn't change anything regarding what I said above.
The reasons women often say stuff like that are numerous tho, ie: men still make more money than women, hold far more CEO/COO positions in companies, have a higher representation in politics, rarely deal with threats of rape, are not trolled incessantly online, rarely face being murdered by someone they know, etc etc etc.
If men don't call out the inequalities and women are vilified for doing so, who's gonna force the much-needed changes we need?
Absolutely. Not only I think women are overly criticized for growing contemptuous of men, that too is dwarfed in damage caused by manhood. Like any violence-related metric, I think men are the biggest source of misandry anyway. Just like men reserve their love and admiration for men, their highest forms of hatred, envy and scorn are often also men. So it's not like men don't say things equivalent to "men are shit", we do it a lot too - we just try to create a group for which that is the exception (and of course, including ourselves). For example, all this bullshit around "soy boy" and "alfa/beta/sigma". This is just men prejudice against men, in roundabout ways tied to performative masculinity.