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Am I depressed, ace, or both? [Cw - sex and depression I guess] (hexbear.net)

submitted 11 months ago by corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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Im mostly just typing this out for myself, but I'll gladly read any replies. No promises I'll respond but I'll at least see it cause im fucking constantly online.

Am I depressed? Yes. I work 70 hours a week, and my gas is still gonna get shut off since i don't get paid in time to meet the minimum. I cancelled a date tonight because the idea of having to have 1 on 1 time, even with guaranteed sex, fills me with anxiety and get my heart racing in a bad way. I don't even feel like touching my partner anymore. It feels too much like an expectation to me, something I just kinda do to make them happy. I used to have a high drive, but it seems to have just disappeared over the last few months like a switch was flipped. No change in my brain meds (Lexapro and lamotrigine), hopefully seeing my psych next week.

I have no desire to do anything these days, and everything seems like way more of a chore than it should. By "these days" I mean as far back as my ADHD ass brain can clearly remember. So less than a year but more than 6 months.

I don't know what else to say here so I'm gonna end the post. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk, don't forget to like and subscribe.

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[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 17 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

meow-hug Dude, you are one of the most love-filled people on this site. Everyone here thinks you're great. That said, anxiety is hard to crack through I know because I get it myself.

Seeing a psych is a good idea, as it does sound like depression which can fuck with the things you mentioned. But my advice for what it's worth is that there is nothing wrong with not being sexual all the time. Try to go with the flow and not think too much about what people think of you (easier said than done, I know). You are cool, you are nice, so leave the expectations behind because you are enough and your date probably agrees, otherwise they wouldn't be dating you!

Best of luck, I know you'll get through this.

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago

Thanks homie. Love you.