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- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
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- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
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Don't move immediately after you're allowed to lift things. Don't get any piercings two months after surgery.
Bring dry shampoo, a hemmaroid doughnut, a reacher grabber, and something to entertain yourself. Comfort items are big. A loved one is invaluable.
The week after bottom surgery is going to be the worst week of your life. Accept it. It will get better, but holy godsdamn fuck does that week suck. Recovery is long, slow, and anxious. Also when they tell you to move and stand, do it, your legs will be sore until you use them.
Once you return home have protein bars and someone who can help with basic things.
Oh also, it's a long tradition for trans lesbians to put off learning makeup until surgery recovery. If you haven't learned yet, it's a good use of a few hours.
Oh and pray to every deity that will listen to not be allergic to opiates. Just trust me on that one
I feel like that would require either an uncomfortable amount of time spent vertical, or a flexible arm mounted to ones bed with a mirror.
So there's like a week of hospital and pain. Then a week or two where you're mostly lying down. Then you've got a few weeks where you're increasingly well, sitting around at home, and around that time it's not uncommon to actually want to spend increasing amounts of time up. Listen to your doctor and your body, but yeah a month and a half is a long time and activities that help you slowly transition to exertion levels of work are good.