ugh, I'm trying to find that meme of an anime girl eating pizza captioned with something like "how I eat pizza knowing estrogen sends it to my boobs and butt"
Paging:
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- @LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Wondering if any of you have advice? 🙏🙏🙏
is ... is this a call for help?
I am too, it took many months to work through all of these 😅
Also, if you ever have any questions, feel free to reach out ❤️ And best of luck to you!
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you might be interested to learn about hermeneutical injustice, let's just say it's not a coincidence we have trouble recognizing we are trans, it's a consequence of our society and its values
EDIT: and it's maybe even more important you model taking transition seriously for yourself given that being trans is genetic and your kids are more likely to be trans than the rest of the population (so how you handle your own trans-ness will certainly influence them, and that might be even more impactful if they turn out to be trans as well).
Reframing your perspective is important to protect yourself, but it's also important to bring the people in your life along with you - it's no good if your perspective has changed but your wife's hasn't, for example. Otherwise you can expect increased friction as you gain the education and perspective she needs as well. Either way, you definitely need the education for yourself regardless, esp. since you can't rely on other people (doctors, psychologists, employers, friends, etc.) to know or understand already.
OK, so I already mentioned the most important ones:
- Julia Serano's Whipping Girl and Sexed Up
- Gender Dysphoria Bible
- An Introduction to Hormone Therapy for Transfeminine People by transfemscience
- What We Know Project, Cornell University, “What Does the Scholarly Research Say about the Effect of Gender Transition on Transgender Well-Being?” (online literature review), 2018.
I would also add:
- Mia Violet's memoir: Yes, You Are Trans Enough
- everything by Casey Plett (Little Fish, A Safe Girl to Love, etc.)
- Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters
- Nevada by Imogen Binnie
Also:
- Leslie Feinberg's Stone Butch Blues
- Janet Mock's Redefining Realness
- Jacob Tobia's memoir: Sissy
- Maia Kobabe's Gender Queer
- Lewis Hancox's Welcome to St. Hell
- Kate Bornstein's Gender Outlaw
When I first transitioned, I also read like every peer reviewed science article I could find, so on the science end, I recommend finding and reading:
- autopsy of trans brains finds trans women have brains more like cis women than cis men: Garcia-Falgueras A, Swaab DF. A sex difference in the hypothalamic uncinate nucleus: relationship to gender identity. Brain. 2008 Dec;131(Pt 12):3132-46. doi: 10.1093/brain/awn276. Epub 2008 Nov 2. PMID: 18980961.
- MRI studies find that most people's brains are more complicated than just "male or female": Joel D, Berman Z, Tavor I, Wexler N, Gaber O, Stein Y, Shefi N, Pool J, Urchs S, Margulies DS, Liem F, Hänggi J, Jäncke L, Assaf Y. Sex beyond the genitalia: The human brain mosaic. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2015 Dec 15;112(50):15468-73. doi: 10.1073/pnas.1509654112. Epub 2015 Nov 30. PMID: 26621705; PMCID: PMC4687544.
- synthesis of the findings from the autopsies and MRI studies: Joel D, Garcia-Falgueras A, Swaab D. The Complex Relationships between Sex and the Brain. Neuroscientist. 2020 Apr;26(2):156-169. doi: 10.1177/1073858419867298. Epub 2019 Sep 11. PMID: 31509086.
- Saraswat A, Weinand JD, Safer JD. Evidence supporting the biologic nature of gender identity. Endocr Pract. 2015 Feb;21(2):199-204. doi: 10.4158/EP14351.RA. PMID: 25667367.
- Korpaisarn S, Safer JD. Etiology of Gender Identity. Endocrinol Metab Clin North Am. 2019 Jun;48(2):323-329. doi: 10.1016/j.ecl.2019.01.002. Epub 2019 Mar 18. PMID: 31027542.
- Sex isn't really as binary as we thought, here's an overview article of the new ways science are thinking about "biological sex": Ainsworth, C. Sex redefined. Nature 518, 288–291 (2015). https://doi.org/10.1038/518288a
Science related videos I recommend:
- Julia Serano's overview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZymYiwoRoC0
- Sex & Sensibility: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVQplt7Chos
- Sapolsky lecture on brain sex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nsQDX_OHNE
- Sapolsky lecture on "human sexuality": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOY3QH_jOtE
- segment of Sapolsky lecture about the biology of trans folks (summarizes the repeated Swaab autopsy findings): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QScpDGqwsQ
Also on the academic side:
- Feminist Perspectives on Trans Issues, and anything else written by trans philosopher Talia Mae Bettcher (e.g. "Trapped in the Wrong Theory", "When Selves have Sex", and esp. "Evil Deceivers and Make Believers")
- anything by Florence Ashley esp. "What Is It like to Have a Gender Identity?" and "Don't Be So Hateful" (Note: you can download any of their published articles from her personal website)
- everything else Julia Serano has written
- every video by ContraPoints, but esp. trans related videos like Are Tr*ps Gay?, JK Rowling, Autogynephilia, The Witch Trials of JK Rowling, Pronouns, Transtrenders, Gender Critical
There is more, but I think this is a lot for now anyway.
yes, you get it!
And completely agree that you're already gross from running, it's just socially faux pas so I prefer to wait until I'm not around others to do it (if possible, if I'm really suffering I'll just do it anyway 🫠).
Cover one nostril with finger, then blow very hard (try to aim for the ground and not on your clothes), then reverse which nostril you cover and do the same.
It's really gross, I try to only do it when no one is around, but it is useful.
penile inversion, and I'll be in the U.S., I will only have to drive to a different city.
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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/29789039
Theresa Garnett (1888 - 1966)
Thu May 17, 1888
Theresa Garnett, born on this day in 1888, was a militant British suffragette whose acts of feminist rebellion included assaulting Winston Churchill with a whip, shouting "Take that in the name of the insulted women of England!"
Garnett was born in Leeds on May 17th, 1888. In 1907, she joined the Women's Social and Political Union (WSPU) after being inspired by a speech given by the feminist and later co-founder of the Australian Communist Party Adela Pankhurst.
The WSPU fought for women's suffrage in the United Kingdom and was noted for its use of direct action. Its members heckled politicians, held demonstrations and marches, broke the law to force arrests, broke windows in prominent buildings, set fire to post boxes, committed night-time arson of unoccupied houses and churches, and, when imprisoned, went on hunger strike and endured physically traumatizing force-feeding.
Garnett participated in several of these actions as a young adult, chaining herself in 1909, along with four other activists, to a statue in Parliament in protest of a law meant to prohibit disorderly conduct while Parliament was in session.
On November 14th, 1909, Garnett assaulted Winston Churchill, who instituted policies of force feeding suffragettes in prison, with a whip, striking him several times while shouting "Take that in the name of the insulted women of England!"
- Date: 1888-05-17
- Learn More: en.wikipedia.org, spartacus-educational.com.
- Tags: #Labor, #Feminism, #Birthdays, #Protests.
- Source: www.apeoplescalendar.org
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ha, the logic is a bit wacky, but I can also see how maybe publishing a book like that might cause a moral panic that could result in regulatory action (and to be fair that's how the FDA was created, after Upton Sinclair's The Jungle resulted in a moral panic)