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Is it common to have trouble remembering important details? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 7 hours ago by clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I forget medical info all the time. When was my last dentist visit? I dunno. Which kid had their tonsils out? What's my blood type?

Wife asks "remember when I had strep last year?" No...

Has anyone in my house had COVID? I think so, but which one(s)?

I forget vacations we took, what states I've been to.

Terrible at remembering people that I've met even a bunch of times.

Horrible at work. I'm on top of what's happening now, mostly, because I have notes, but what happened a year ago? Gosh.

It's really frustrating living like this, but I don't know how much might be my ADHD and how much is just me having a bad brain.

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[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 8 points 5 hours ago (3 children)

I feel so bad, because people know MY name and I can't reciprocate. Is it because I'm a bad, self-centered person? A medical issue? Something else?

Gives me anxiety, bud.

[–] applemao@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago

Yeah. I can't remember names worth a crap even if I try. Their voice, their face and their car i can remember no problem.

[–] jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

ADHD is a brain/neurological disorder that has a wide range of symptoms, including memory issues. I can't tell you exactly why we have trouble remembering names but I am 100% certain that it's not because you're a bad or self-centered person.

You've gotta give yourself a little grace. Living with with ADHD is hard and you can't just power through it, any more than someone missing a leg can run marathons.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 5 points 5 hours ago

What does it matter if I give myself some grace if society does expect me to run that marathon though?

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 hours ago

Ah, but you see, even if you are correct (probably are), there's still the chance that I'm ALSO a bad person! Checkmate.

I should probably see a therapist.

[–] Lumidaub@feddit.org 6 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I always, always, always open with "I am VERY bad with names so please forgive me if I have to ask again next time. ... no, yes, I get that you think you're bad with names too, but you don't understand." Okay, admittedly, I only think that second part.

[–] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 hours ago

I do that too, but I still feel terrible because I can't remember if this is one of the people to whom I said that!