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Saw this one on Reddit (don’t judge haha) and thought I would see what the collective of Lemmy thought!!

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[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

People will just tell you. It is that easy.

You get free merch. People insist on paying for your stuff or you cutting in line. Random compliments. Contagious smile. People imitating you. Being asked out.

It happened to me a few times where I was targeted by promoters for various things who asked if they could take a picture of me with the product. I was asked by people I would consider attractive. It didn't dawn on me until later in life that I may have been attractive.

[–] trslim@pawb.social 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I took off my glasses once and another guy saw me and said, "wow you're a really handsome guy." I kinda blushed a bit, and it kind of made my day.

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Man wait until you hear about gay online dating

[–] trslim@pawb.social 6 points 1 day ago

Ah I'm already married to a great guy ^^

[–] warbond@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Is gay online dating full of reciprocal compliments?

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Does this happen to you? I would assume strangers walking up to you and just saying “you’re attractive” feels… odd.

Not saying doesn’t happen, but, maybe just surprised.

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes, if I look attractive that day, people will say stuff like, "Wow you have such beautiful eyes/smile/teeth/skin." It usually isn't even about that specific body part, they are just trying to communicate they find me pretty in a polite way. I also get told I look like various celebrities that I definitely do not look like lol, my friends would keep a list of names of them because it was pretty random and it again is just someone trying to say I'm attractive. Eg Kristen Bell, Dianna Agron, Kirsten Dunst, Amy Adams - I do not look like these women lol

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Ahhh I see! I would just roll with it and try to enjoy the compliments 🙂

Also, the fact that people want to engage with you should be a good thing… yes/no?

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm neutral to it. It's just something some people do.

[–] randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 days ago

Got it, thank you so much for sharing!! I appreciate it!