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I dont need to go further than the 6th word to know the answer. You know it. We know it. Sorry. Just face reality.
This comment has received several reports, but I am not going to remove it – it is polite and to the point in answering OP's question.
Yes, honesty can feel hurtful to some, no, it's not breaking any rules of Lemmy.world or this community (in my view as moderator).
Remember to be excellent to each other.
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That's not "the truth," that's blatant transphobia. That is a statement that trans women aren't "real" women.
I don't think that identifying that someone else identifies as trans is transphobic, and they certainly didn't say that trans women aren't real women.
I read this in a couple of ways. First, it could mean that the dating pool for trans women, when compared to cis women, is incredibly small. Second, it could mean that by virtue of being a trans woman, the op has to expect some amount of experimentation on the part of her partners, and in romance more experiments fail than succeed.
And there could be other factors not related to being trans as well.
OP could be ugly, or clingy, or "mean when drunk" etc.
I'm a heterosexual cis man, ugly as fuck, and in my decades of dating, I'd say 90% of my relationships fail after a couple of months. I could have attributed at being a bit overweight, or being brown in a relatively white region, or being an immigrant. But I've seen others with my characteristics succeed where I fail. My odds improved with introspection and willingness to adapt.
OP, if you're still reading the comments, we need more info.
That's not how I read the comment, and I very much doubt that's how it was intended or how most people interpreted it.
Thanks for the honesty, yes I know it and it's understandable. What I don't understand is why stay several dates?
People are shitty.