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Why do men keep on having dates with me and then eventually leave? (lemmy.zip)
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So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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[–] Shayeta@feddit.org 2 points 2 days ago

Completely fair, it is unfortunate society is the way it is. The frustrating part is that what we desire is located somewhere within that society, and there is no way around having to engage with that society in order to get it. Hardship is unavoidable.

We fight tooth and nail for the smallest morsels of happiness. It is not fair, it is not worth the effort, but what other option is there?

I wish you good luck.