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[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world 57 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Like the guy defenitely comes off as a dick but also if you check out conventional social media you will see guys who talk about being expected to pay for not just the girl but also their friend, and you will see girls talk about how if she brings a friend for protection then the guy should pay for the friend too.

So many variables exist that we don’t know but for some people there an expectation that if a girl brings a friend the guy needs to pay for both and I wouldn’t default that to just misogyny

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Try and remember when you read this type of stuff that these people are the minority. These stories are not the norm and the much huger proportion of people going on dates that are more or less normal are not reporting their experiences because there's nothing notable really about them.

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

I’m not saying that is the norm but more so that it may not be just internal misogyny that causes the poster to reach their conclusion

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 10 points 5 days ago

I had girls bring a friend with them when I asked them out on a date and it didn't even occur to me that I would pay for them. But also I wouldn't expect the friend to hang around the entire time either, once it turned out I wasn't trying to hurt anyone they generally went away.

[–] Garbagio@lemmy.zip -1 points 5 days ago

I mean but then that's social media. Again, like this post, how many guys posting are posting made up bullshit for engagement? How many girls are giving "tips," again for engagement? None of this is guaranteed to be real. The data stands, however: Per NBC polling, 44% of people think whoever makes more should pay, regardless of gender. 36% think it should be split, regardless of any factors. Only 20%, half of any other response, thinks it should be the one who asked (which is usually in straight relationships the man). I'm sorry, but all of this is at best a shitty date, and yet is at worst fuel for the fucking mgtow incel crowd.