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Depressive intellectual honesty is #1.
No children ever #2. I didn't like children even when I was one and that never changed. My sense of morality also disagrees with procreation.
No deity beliefs or vague spiritualism #3.
That's it really, and yet I've barely ever met anyone like this. People don't exactly advertise these traits that I've seen local to me.
Edit: Oh and as far as physical goes I'm not body picky. It's mostly about the face. I like angular, resting bitch face. Intensity. If you scare people I'm into it.
i think #3 is your greatest limiter. i expect more people have at least some kind of spiritual / meaning-making impulse than don't, by a large margin.
I think it really depends on the demographics of the immediate society somebody finds themself within. The presence or absence of specific spirituality or religious beliefs is really important to a lot of people and can make up a significant portion of who they are. Just as the commenter is requiring an absence of certain beliefs, there are others in the dating pool who are requiring the presence of these beliefs, and the commenter wouldn’t have a healthy relationship if they have to fake who they are to be with somebody.
For sure, it's not good news here. Hell, I've been called sub-human to my face for not being spiritual by one of my friend's partners and she stopped hanging out with us when I invite him over. She's not even religious. All it took was mentioning I wasn't even spiritual at a backyard BBQ when the topic came up naturally ¯\(ツ)/¯
I usually just say “I’m not superstitious” or “That’s not for me” and leave it and my level of involvement with their beliefs to my audience’s interpretation. As for your friend’s partner and your complicit friend, “Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities” - Voltaire.
I honestly don't think he has a clue about any of this yet even years after the fact, he's pretty fucking thick lol. I never brought it up, yes he was there but comprehension is another story.
Yet. He'll find out when I don't attend their wedding and I'm sure you can predict who he'll side with. RIP friendship from age 8 to 36 next year.
I'd agree. Stats show I've already cut 75% off the global population with that preference alone just the religious! I'm sure it's higher factoring in spiritual.