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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Someone who actually cares about me enough to help me with the things I suck at. Someone who would drop everything they are doing if I needed them, the way I do for everyone I care about. Someone who thinks I am sexy and wants to be physically intimate. Someone I am comfortable enough around to be myself and not mask to fit in.

What my current relationship is lacking is he's not as available as I would like, we don't talk about deep personal shit, and we don't really have sex. Basically just friends that cuddle and sleep in the same bed on occasion.

Main problem is I want more, and he doesn't know what he wants. But I'd rather keep what we have than have nothing at all. We're not monogamous so I've just been thinking about maybe simply adding more people than trying to find one that ticks every box. Plus it would be fun to say shit like "My Monday and Tuesday boyfriends are hanging out with my Wednesdsy girlfriend, which is why I'm just chilling with Thursday, even though it's Monday."

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

why don't you become better at those things yourself? why should someone else do it for you?

if you want to be better at something the only person stopping yourself is you. you might be a lot happier generally if you took charge of your life like that.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Do what? Loving myself? Fucking myself? 🤨

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world -3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No, get better at the things you suck at and become a more complete person in yourself. Don't expect someone else to 'complete' or 'fix' you.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 3 days ago

Not the kinds of things I'm referring to. Disability related shit.