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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self?
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I promise it has a good turn
Not me so its a complete outsiders perspective:
A guy i know had long time the mindset that if someone would like to be in a relationship or "available" they could be "assigned" to each other.
(i dont really know if the wording is right but i am sure about the concept)
As in: i had contact with him and when he was gone from school for 2 months i managed to get into a relationship even tho i was like very anti relationship.
So when he came back he was dissappointed that i did not choose him as he was "obviously available" and he would have tried to ask me out if i didnt had the "no relationship" stance.
I told him then that i am sure that i would not wanted to be in a relationship with him anyway but the feeling, that he would try to ask me out the moment my relationship breaks he would ask me out.
He also tried to ask like every other girl out to the point where he got thrown out the school twice (second was final)
At some public monthly meetup event he also did that and the girls started avoiding him but he d5d nothing more than asking.
At my last visit at the meetup before moving cities i tried to give him my unfiltered, less comfortable opinion about his behavior which he later dismissed completly as i heard from others.
But thankfully months or few years later (too distant for accurate data) he started therapy and with it he started pausing trying to date everything that looks like a woman and from the few instances i saw he got a lot better, less stressed, happier and has more energy
Its awesome too see and i hope next time we meet he got even better (+ that he gets stable enough that i can tease him with a "told u so" because i am still a menace)
Sorry for wall of text