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The way you say "potentially diseased" is pretty rude. That's not how I view folks with ASD. All of this is because someone who has ASD and thought OP was going through something similar. I have ADHD. If I saw someone speaking about one of the pivotal moments that led to me getting a diagnosis I might say to them "have you may considered you have ADHD and sought a diagnosis?"
What else does saying somebody's behavior is loosely abnormal and strongly pushing them to get professionally diagnosed really mean if not "potentially diseased"? They literally suggested that it may be autism, something they couldn't possibly know about someone based on an online interaction.
I'm somebody who is on the spectrum too and I personally believe that autism is a normal difference or neurodivergence - with specific qualities, associated challenges, and diagnostic criteria. I don't believe that OP's reaction and behavior fits in this instance.
That's totally fair that you don't think it fits, but I don't think the other user was out of line for suggesting it might.
I feel that suggesting diagnosis is warranted if OP suggested that they might need that level of help and support, suspected autism themselves and was forward about that, or was otherwise having a difficulty commonly associated with the standard diagnostic criteria of autism e.g. OP was having sensory issues.