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My age says I'm an adult but sometimes I think other people know more about being an adult than me.

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[โ€“] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 9 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

You don't have an insight into other people's minds so you attribute their behavior and decisions to some knowledge you don't have but they do.
This is a fake feeling caused by lack of information. Everyone is improvising life.

Some reading as introduction to the cause of the phenomenon:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attribution_bias

[โ€“] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

yep. it's like when people think my IT/coding skills are 'magic'.

they aren't... they are a product of learning and failing and learning... effort.

i also notice people think like some 12 year old who is really good at something is magically gifted.... 99.9% of the time it's because they are already been doing it for a decade. all my professionally level musician friends started learning music at like 2 or 3. most kids don't learn until like 12, so those 'gifted' kids have a decade of experience already.

just like when i took calc 3 at 30 and my class had a bunch of 15 year olds in it. those 15 year olds in it they weren't geniuses. they just had more experience and knowledge than me and parents who pushed them. many of them probably would go on to graduate college in 2-3 years instead of the traditional 4.