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[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I think that's more of a tell on your own insecurities if the notion makes you uncomfortable. You can't tell if someone is gay, even if there are some trends/social queues.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

But the trends and social queues are important for how people view you, and how people view you has a big impact on your life. e.g. imagine you were trying to flirt with people but everyone you talk to assumes that you're not into their gender.

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just because you can guess doesn't mean you can definitively tell.

This thread has been great for reminding me that nobody on the fucking planet can read.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 points 3 days ago

Right back atcha.

[–] ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

you should look up “gaydar”

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

I feel that was covered by saying "trends/social queues"

"Gaydar" is just making a guess based on social queues. Maybe it's an educated guess but it is a guess.

[–] AsoFiafia@lemmy.zip 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I completely agree with you.

I hate to be this person, but I have to ask: did you mean “cues?” A queue is a line or an order.

[–] ozymandias@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 4 days ago (1 children)

no, that’s how someone straight would guess….
gaydar is more of an intuition

[–] KAtieTot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Intuition - "quick and ready insight; the power of knowing things without conscious reasoning."

Iunno, I think that's covered by "social cueues and tendencies". Your intuition is still fueled by the things you perceive and isn't magic, or necessarily accurate.