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Fair enough, but to me that sounds like saying "i'm a vegan except when i eat meat" 😅
There's a lot of different relationship types out there. It's not the same as saying I'm a vegan except when I eat meat. That's like saying pescatarians are the same as vegans which are the same as meat eaters.
I've been in plenty of relationship models - poly, swingers, group sex, etc. There's distinct differences that should be respected in each.
Call me old fashioned but to me these kinds of details feel way too personal to use as outwardly defining properties of a relationship.
Like your arrangement, i'm pretty sure i would not communicate any of this to any person i don't want to hook up with.
What the fuck kind of business is it of anyone else? Why is it relevant to anyone who and how i am fucking?
It depends on your community. My friend group knows we're kind of open. My parents and family don't know anything about our sex life. It just depends.
We use these terms for relationships within the kink and poly communities to signal to each other what our relationship statuses are. It's not for the average person one runs into on the street.