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I decided in my mid-to-late 20’s that I did not want kids and that relationships tend to bring too much stress into my life. And from what I’ve seen from most other people’s relationships and marriages, I do not regret my decision. And these aren’t even bad relationships/marriages. They’re very functional. But there’s still stress and “drama” in all of them. No, thanks.
Yes, even in happy relationships there is so much extraneous drama injected into ordinary situations.
I've had so many kind gesture towards my partner rejected and shoved back in my face. It's just not worth it anymore.
When I buy myself a coffee or flowers, I don't scream at myself for getting the wrong coffee/flowers, or start ranting how I don't do this often enough, or that I'm trying to manipulate them... etc etc.
I just get to enjoy the coffee or the flowers and be at peace and think how pleasant it is. God forbid something just be enjoyable instead of weaponized.