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[–] teelin134@programming.dev 45 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I’m good. Though, I feel like I don’t really have the life I expected for my current level of income. Like my parents made a lot less, but had it better.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Even before my unemployment I felt this way. I mean by felt that its just a fact. My father never went to high school. Im not saying did not graduate. Im saying never went. Mom only worked a few part time jobs and never for a need for money. Grew up in a massive 5 bedroom house and we always had 2 or more cars. Dad was a janitor. I have a BS and masters and had changed to IT due to my first career not paying enough and have no kids (I had 6 siblings). One car and two bedroom condo is my max achievement and im running through savings in my 50's. Oh my dad had multiple pensions and a good amount of retirement savings.

[–] mig@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like he had a union job and/or worked for govt. Like a janitor in a school district.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 7 hours ago

yeah but the bs janitor jobs were not such a thing back then to. LIke being a janitor at abbot in the 70's was non union and non government but nice. Janitors were in house and part of the company and not part of a service.

[–] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

I sure get that. My dad did 80 hours of trade school in turn late 90s and turned out a six figure job with one day off a week and it was plenty. I do better now than we did then, but it took a PhD and like 17 years of work. Consequently I'm an older dad, but I guess it is what it is.

[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago

I feel this. I love modestly but my parents had it worse so we didn't do much either. What gets me is the amount of people who are reaping the benefits of generational wealth which I think is the only reason my peers are affording the lives they have.

It's part of why I associate most with immigrants. They understand the struggle more than people who look like me.

I have an Indian coworker who lives with her husband and child in a 1 bedroom apartment and she's the single breadwinner and struggles hard. I admire her more than anyone else in my office.