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[–] Zeppo@sh.itjust.works 113 points 8 hours ago (3 children)

having sex (perhaps just once?) doesn't equal not lonely, though.

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 17 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

In fact sex being used as the indicator is actually a clue to one of the largest contributors. There's a very wide reaching assumption that men should get most of their emotional support from their female partner. This is often very stressful to the female partner and is a fragile way to meet a basic need; if she gets sick or dies he's probably not far behind her. Men need to learn how to compliment and hug each other platonically. It's 2026 and it's for their own good ffs. I keep giving my male patients brochures for men's support groups and I really hope at least some of them are actually going.

[–] Daywim@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

It seems so surreal to me that other men don’t hug each other, or tell their friends that they love them

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

Furry here, we do that stuff. It's pretty good, can recommend.

Also men used to do that a lot more, before the world wars.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 1 points 51 minutes ago

We do it a lot more but it does exist in other places just less hug centric more a hand on a shoulder. Normally social groups and clubs. it requires older men that are not entirely Jaded to set the example. Unfortunately those guys mostly have passed at this point and most boomers don't have the cognitive bandwidth.

[–] papalonian@lemmy.world 43 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

No, I'm pretty sure that every man who has had sex at least once in their life turned out to be a top bloke

[–] trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 9 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

But can't top blokes be lonely?

[–] Valthorn@feddit.nu 18 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

They say it's lonely at the top, bloke.

[–] lath@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

So.. more men as bottoms?

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 18 points 7 hours ago

Having a ton of sex doesn't equal not lonely either.

Like Barney from HIMYM, or Charlie Sheen in 2.5 men.