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Hello, I am here. Never left just stopped posting. I was quitting smoking, since new years. I've been withdrawing, and all the lovely symptoms that go along with it have been wrecking me.
I made it to today and relapsed.
I don't want to die of cancer.
I WILL try again after this pouch. πͺπΌ
Ditch the pouch and pretend it didn't happen.
Quitting cigs is ridiculously hard. Can't remember how many tries it took me. Finally kicked it, but the first relapse isn't the end.
Glad you're still around. I must admit, I was getting worried about you as well
I've never been in your position, so I don't want to offer useless advice. But I'm glad you're working on it as best you can. It's a hard habit to kick
Also, if I might insert my 2c: you made it 10 days. You've just proved to yourself you can do it. Sometimes it just takes a few goes. When my mum was trying to quit, the first time she made it 16 hours. The 2nd time she made it 2 days. Then 4. She "failed" every time, but AFAIK she's managed to break out now, and no longer smokes
Thank you Baku. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought losing weight would be hard, but that only took cutting out soft drinks and OMAD. This shit is insidious.
I'm really happy to hear your mum quit! That's fantastic! Besides, we only fail to quit when we stop trying to quit. She never failed, she succeeded!! Your advice is not useless and neither are you ππππ
the exhaustion from field work after not doing it regularly has hit me like a ton of bricks, but it is lovely having a few more days of fresh air and slow, quiet life with company, off my phone most of the time. I definitely need an extended break from the city once I'm done with things.
Having a tense moment with sibling who wants to split the annual health insurance for mum by 3 and saying how he's just dropped 17k on his kids overseas uni fees...
rant
My two other sibs outearn me by 3-5x and are also significantly older. This insurance costs a bomb (11k AUD/ year and growing - in a country with universal healthcare), and was richest sib's idea back when he earned a lot more.
Eldest sib has always financially supported mum the most (he has always been a high earner). But he is also the most emotionally distant and meanest to my mum and doesn't recognise the health impact that has on her (or that his contempt is obvious). His own kids have been spoiled most of their lives and he had a very cruel divorce and now needs to fork out a lot to keep his kids going.
I feel an unspoken expectation to be catching up to their high earning jobs and shouldering the financial burden equally.
I steadfastly refuse however to accept this. It has made me rather upset
I chose not to have kids partly because they're so expensive. I hate being guilt tripped into now having to pay up more than I can afford because i chose not to reproduce. The insinuation that my choices are less noble is low-class and narrow -minded.
I refuse to be dragged into the unhappy trap of flogging myself to earn more, at the cost of energy to attend to the more fundamental and important things in life like being present for others. It has taken over a decade for me to be ok with not reaching the heights of others and wanting to craft a simpler life that focuses my energies better. I am not about to be conned out of this by those whose lives I never ever want to lead.
My mum is no saint and she has had trouble with emotional relationships much of her life due to her own brain quirks and traumas, I don't hold it against my sibs for being cold to her if they feel no love. but it is utterly despicable to me that the eldest then claims the upper ground for financially supporting her as compensation.
Mum is happiest being frugal and taking care of her own health, she herself questions the need for this insurance. My sibling comes up with horror stories of how she would end up in a shitty hospital ward without it and how miserable she would be. Meanwhile she is feels lonely and low NOW partly because he's the only one in the same country as her and is totally contemptuous of her, and that's no concern to him.
I refuse to relate to my mother the way he does, and reject the expectation that I should cough up otherwise I'm heartless and selfish... I worked hard to move here and escape the narrative from our home country that life is a miserable slog and money matters above all else in the real world. I won't be pulled down by crabs in the bucket.
hugs
you are family too and there is no reason why the guilt trippers should set the tone and not you
from the sound of it you have made the right decision in moving and starting your own life
Have been talking to the bank. I threw up.
yeahhhh you know those home loan adds where the 20 something guy carries his laughing girlfriend through the door? Its NOTHING like that. Least it wasnt for us. We got in the door, basically collapsed on the ground and went "Right, that was fucked and this is a dump so lets at least get rid of these god awful curtains!"
Bank dicks you at every turn as well.
but then you pull up some shitty carpet, or get solar installed, or drill a hole for mounting shelves and it's fucking wild
Looking forward to that bit. Won't be able to afford much for a bit but there will absolutely be a ceremonial nail bashed into a wall.
Don't give up. We bought a shit house in a shit house suburb while working shit house jobs with shit house pay driving shit house cars but it's our shit house and we will grow old together giving each other shit. Hopefully soon you will have that and not have to put up with shit house landlords. Best wishes.
Itβs ok. You got this! Fingers crossed for you. When all of it is over youβll be able to settle in and make the place your own.
Yesterday I helped get a lost Teddy back home. I would like to spend this micro amount of karma on No Bank Fuckups.
Just got back from smelling the corpse flower. It smelt a little rotten, looked like I expected it to.
Just got my new license with the new photo.
God I look horrible in that photo.
I donβt even recognise myself in it.
Bought a nice birthday card, spoiled it with my crap writing. Ugh.
Donβt know if anyone else has that problem, but if I donβt write regularly my hand writing goes downhill and I canβt seem to write half decently unless Iβm seated.
People who have effortlessly beautiful handwriting give me so much envy.
Last day in the current role. It's a bit sad because I enjoy working here and we've had nothing on the past two weeks, so I've been enjoying that extended chill time at home.
I hope the new job is bearable. I think I need a job where I can lock in for a bit and make some progress. Either I can get some results and work my way up or have some impressive enough work to display on a resume.
I feel like I'm hitting a ceiling for the types of jobs advertised on the open market. Real advances from here will either be from promotions or networking
dogs back from the vet. Shes scratched herself and got infected. shes such a good girl at the vet though! Does so well, unlike the other one.
I tried almond milk for the first time today. Honestly, I didn't hate is as much as I thought I would. I had it in a mocha, and I could definitely taste the nutty flavour, but I didn't find it overpowering or disgusting. Honestly, besides the fact that my mocha tasted like somebody put a bit of a 7-11 nut mix in there, I don't think I'd even notice the milk was fake or that anything was different
weight loss I spose
I started trying to do a calorie deficit thingy today (editor's note: Baku means yesterday, Thursday). I had a naughty midnight HSP, so it's barely a deficit, mostly just a break even, but that's gonna be the end of them for a while. I don't talk about my weight very often because honestly I am deeply ashamed of my weight, genuinely carry a level of despite and disgust towards myself over it, and it's the main reason I would never consider meeting anybody from here (hard to trust anybody else to not care if I myself, care too much)
It's not a new years resolution, I've just been deeply unhappy about it for fucking years, and now that I'm finally somewhere at least somewhat safe and secure, I feel like I can finally safely work on my mental and physical health
Today ran about a 300cal deficit, if my phone's built in pedometer is anywhere near accurate. Otherwise, about a 200 surplus. Oh well. It'll take more than that to defeat me. I worked on some calf strengthening exercises so that I can manage longer walks. I much prefer a long, slow burn over half an hour of intense cardio or whatever
This is probably the only time I'll mention it for a while. I know what I'm in for, that there's usually a plateau, and there'll be plenty of bad or challenging days. But I'll be off in the background trying my best
If anybody's ever wondered what my vice is, since I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, dislike butter, and am barely affected by caffeine, it is, and always has been, overeating, a poor diet, and an over reliance on sweet things for comfort
I don't need advice, I kind of just wanted to get it off my chest. That is my darkest secret, and the thing I dislike most about myself. Maybe sharing it will make me less nervous about sharing other things. Who knows
Half an hourβs airing on the balcony with a cup of mint tea.
Iβm going back to bed
Why the heck not
two sets of 1970s-80s cutlery , rolling pin that looks older me
impressive
growls at VLC I have 5.1 speakers, my system is configured for 5.1, I've configured you to run in 5.1, why are you dropping entire channels you gurning hemorrhoid
How has this thread become Kitchen Drawer World Tour 2025?
I feel as though I missed something
Pretty sure it all started when CEO broke their cheese spoon, which seems to have lead to a bit of a drawer crisis π
I dunno, I don't really understand what's happening most of the time. I just go along with what the masses are doing, and I haven't been exiled yet, so it seems to be working? π€·ββοΈ
You can't be exiled! Youre the DT bot!!
boss OMG THIS DOWNLOAD WAS SO SLOW FROM THIS COMPUTER. BUT IT WENT A LITTLE FASTER FRoM THIS COMPUTER. FIX IT FIX IT FIX IT
me: hey you know how I said I was updating the firmware on 150 odd servers because Qnap decided to yoink container station2 over christmas with zero warning? think that might have something to do with it there buddy?
He's complaining about 4mb/s speeds.
My aunt and uncle (mostly my cantankerous uncle) have spent the whole morning trying to get Foxtel support on the phone to help with their blurry signal. The whole thing is just pure distilled boomer
I have had a few more hours of sleep
Show me your drawers people. I'll rate them.
I will add, if it works for you that's all that matters.
Everyone here being all like "wah my drawers are so cluttered"
Well, this is what happens when one doesn't invest in a cutlery divider
I'm cleaning out my kitchen drawer and I found 8 vegetable peelers and 6 bottle openers. Time to be ruthless.
It's time to throw out my favourite cheese knife because he's cracked and I have others to replace him with. I loved his length, he's girth, he's sharpness. He felt great in my hand. We've had some good times but it's time to let go. sigh
Glue that bad bwoy back together again like they should've done with humpty dumpty.
A few birds actually used the fkn bird bath. Probably pooed in it as a thank you for cleaning it out.
The rest of the kitchen is a mess despite how much Iβve been trying to get a handle on it.
This is a bit empty and weirdly neat because some stuff got used and is currently in the wash. But I did recently clean and wipe out the cutlery drawer so here you go
spoiler
Hey CEO, here are mine. This was after a serious declutter some time back, and they have miraculously stayed tidy
Forgot my earbuds today, so now I get to listen to Xtrapolis train noises π
Apparently new meds mean Lifeblood can no longer take my blood. Oh well. Still got a honeycomb Nippys.
Midnight house alarm activated over the road. Just what I need.
Passport photos acquired. Surprisingly painless. I love the people at the new LPO, they're so lovely and efficient!
Edit: actually I looked at my photo and it looks like I've got an ever so slightly smirk. Not too pronounced, it's certainly not a smile. But enough that if somebody was intentionally choosing to be a dick could call it non neutral. There's also a few Tufts of hair that blew into my face on the walk over. Hope they're not dicks about that either
