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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 34 points 4 months ago

When you are in a circle of friends they will stand slightly closer to you then anyone else and when you talk they seem to pay more attention to what you are saying compared to what the group is discussing.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

there's a lot of local/cultural factors

best is to just listen to your inner voice, i guess.

[–] UtMan1988@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago

Mine just says "KILL GOKU KILL GOKU"

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

There sure is no all encompassing, easy answer, but that is a little off. Like telling a color blind person to "just look at the color".

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I think the better advice is to find a trusted friend in one's local culture instead of troll-y internet randos who could be on the other side of the world.

[–] Eheran@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago
[–] Mac@mander.xyz 10 points 4 months ago (2 children)

If you're interested then go ask.
Don't try to figure it all out ahead of time.

[–] untorquer@lemmy.world 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

"Hey i think you're really cool! Want to go [grab a coffee] with me?"

[Any low stakes public social activity]

Bonus points if you tailor it to shared interests.

[–] i_have_no_enemies@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

she told me she doesn’t want to go outside because men stare at her and it makes her embarrassed

we both are raised in strict hanafi families

[–] untorquer@lemmy.world 7 points 4 months ago

Ah then any safe space for her in which you can get to know eachother but gives her an easy exit if she wants.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Well she came up to me and hit on me once. Later she signed some paperwork to make me her wife. I'm pretty sure she likes me after all that

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 10 points 4 months ago

She could be Canadian. Keep your wits about you and watch for signs..

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 8 points 4 months ago

What's the context and age? Does she laugh at your jokes more than with other people's jokes? Really it's hard to know because you need to first establish the person's baseline.

Like for example whoever suggested the hair behind the ear thing, it could be, but it also could be that they do that too often. I'm one of these too oftens for hair behind the ear and I tend to gesture more at my ears too because I can't always hear perfectly.

So, yeah there's a hundred tell tale signs but you first need to have something to compare them to.

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The hair behind ear thing with eye contact

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 22 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Be careful with this one. As someone who has to be intentional about making eye contact, it does not mean I like you.

And moving hair is just... moving hair.

[–] Exec@pawb.social 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Agreed, as one with long hair I do the thing with pushing them behind my ears so it won't be in my face

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

it won’t be in my faec

face or feces/faeces? Probably makes a difference.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The woman who makes direct eye contact with you while adjusting her ass crack hairs definitely has some sort of feelings towards you.

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 3 points 4 months ago

That's no lady, that's my wife!

[–] KeenFlame@feddit.nu 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

But also many people adjust hair when attracted to someone. It's subtle but it's not like these indicators are abundant so take it for what it is

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Also when nervous. Which might tend to happen when someone notices someone observing them every time they adjust their hair.

[–] KeenFlame@feddit.nu 1 points 4 months ago

Which is a good answer when people ask for indicators of people that are nervous

[–] Fleur_@hilariouschaos.com 1 points 4 months ago

You could ask